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WandleB
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Hi there
I joined this forum not for any mental problems I might have but because I am worried about my friend's son's attitude towards me.
I am 64 and have known my friend, who I used to work with, for years but never that well. We live quite close, but only see each other every few months. Sometimes we walk our dogs together, at other times we have a meal out in a pub together.
Her son has asperger's. He's 23. I was concerned when I first knew him because he seems to have a fixation with death and murder. At one time all he used to talk about were famous murder cases. He seems obsessed with meat - he travels miles to buy meat from butchers all over the country - but doesn't seem remotely interested in learning how to cook. It's as if he is interested because it is something dead.
I have raised this concern with my friend, and she got very angry and ended up putting the phone down on me. We made it up and I said I would try and treat him like she suggested, which is to be breezy and outgoing, and not take what he said too seriously.
He has, over the past few years, been texting me and usually it is with rather absurd hypothetical questions, which I usually respond to in a jokey way. I also try to ask about the work experience he is doing, by way of encouraging him to do something positive.
Recently, however, he has said some awful things. My mother died a few weeks ago and his hypothetical question was - well, I won't go into it, just to say it was to do with her body. I ignored it. Then last week he sent me a text that was obscene in a sexual way. I ignored that too. Then today, he sent the same text again, wondering why I hadn't answered. I have just informed his mother and sent her a copy of the text.
Am I right to be worried about his behaviour? Is it something that people with aspergers can be prone to, or is it something else?
I joined this forum not for any mental problems I might have but because I am worried about my friend's son's attitude towards me.
I am 64 and have known my friend, who I used to work with, for years but never that well. We live quite close, but only see each other every few months. Sometimes we walk our dogs together, at other times we have a meal out in a pub together.
Her son has asperger's. He's 23. I was concerned when I first knew him because he seems to have a fixation with death and murder. At one time all he used to talk about were famous murder cases. He seems obsessed with meat - he travels miles to buy meat from butchers all over the country - but doesn't seem remotely interested in learning how to cook. It's as if he is interested because it is something dead.
I have raised this concern with my friend, and she got very angry and ended up putting the phone down on me. We made it up and I said I would try and treat him like she suggested, which is to be breezy and outgoing, and not take what he said too seriously.
He has, over the past few years, been texting me and usually it is with rather absurd hypothetical questions, which I usually respond to in a jokey way. I also try to ask about the work experience he is doing, by way of encouraging him to do something positive.
Recently, however, he has said some awful things. My mother died a few weeks ago and his hypothetical question was - well, I won't go into it, just to say it was to do with her body. I ignored it. Then last week he sent me a text that was obscene in a sexual way. I ignored that too. Then today, he sent the same text again, wondering why I hadn't answered. I have just informed his mother and sent her a copy of the text.
Am I right to be worried about his behaviour? Is it something that people with aspergers can be prone to, or is it something else?