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Worried about my Nan's eating habits

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Hedgehog1993

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Hi,

I am really very worried about my Nan I think she may have an eating disorder and I am unsure of how to help her!

She rarely eats anything at all and seems constantly worried that she is over eating when clearly she barely eats enough to stay healthy!
She also lies about how much she eats saying she has eaten lots already that day or the day before - I can tell she is lying as its always the same story when she is offered food at my house.
If we ever go out for meals as a family she barely eats anything and its clear she struggles with the experience.
If I ever visit unplanned she never has much food in the house.
She also buys my family so much food and cooks huge portions for us if we ever visit for dinner yet hardly eats any herself.
She has always been a small, slim lady at only 5ft but she is now very thin and yet is constantly upset about her weight often complaining about her belly being fat.

I especially worry as she lives on her own and my family and I are only able to see her every few weeks!

Any advice on how to approach this and get my Nan on the path to recovery would be much appreciated!

Thank you
 

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:welcome: to the forum.

Do you know whether she has any kind of support at all from anyone?

x
 
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Thank you :)
No she doesn't have any support I am aware of. She lives alone and has done for a very long time now. She is only 68 so is still very active and goes to work 4 days a week and from what I know has a good social life but I don't think there is anyone close enough who she would confide in. X
 
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Hi Hedgehog, sorry to hear about your Nan. I think you are right to be worried. Eating disorders can happen or get worse at any age, but there are other problems with appetite sometimes with the elderly. How old is your Nan? I really don't know what advice to give. I have had the experience with my mother and with an aunt that they lost appetite and just seemed to stop eating. With my mother she went into hospital for something else and fortunately there was a specialist in elderly care who gave a lot of help and we were able to get her appetite back, partly through persuading and explaining how important it was for her to get sufficient nutrients, and also by tempting her.

With my aunt we were not so lucky, before we could really help her she died from another condition. She was far away so it was harder to help her.

The only thing I can think of is to write to her doctor and say how worried you are. He/she could get help - maybe refer her to a dietician, I don't know who would help with this sort of problem. If it is an eating disorder she could be referred to the hospital.

Does she manage her home and everything by herself? If she has any social services help it is possible they would know who could help her.
 
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Thank you Sarah!
She is 68 and still holds down a full time job as a hairdresser and always has an immaculate home it's only her eating I am concerned about - in every other way she is super Nan haha!
Thank you for your ideas and for sharing your own experiences with me - maybe contacting her doctor could be a way forward!
X
 
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At 68 and still active with work and social life, it is unlikely to be the old age type,loss of appetite. It is more likely that it could be an eating disorder, or perhaps she needs a full physical check up to make sure there is no other reason for loss of appetite.

I wish you well, and your Nan x
 
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Sadly an eating disorder seems to be the most likely explanation! Thank you very much Sarah all the best my dear x
 
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