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Worried about developing eating disorder

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ohjulian

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Hi there,

I'm a 22 year old grad student, and I've had anxiety and depression for as long as I can remember. I've been having some issues with food lately that are starting to worry me. Recently, my days have been going like this. I'll wake up, drag myself to work way too late, no breakfast (I make my own hours, but I know I should still not be showing up at noon every day). I do my work, which I enjoy and sometimes I get to interact with other people, which is nice, and I'll eat a good lunch. Then sometime in the evening, I go home to my apartment where I live alone, and I get in bed, and I'm on my laptop from like 8 pm-1 am until I fall asleep. I get hungry at night, and I know I could go make myself some food, but I just have no motivation. Usually at night I'm lonely, sad, and I don't feel like eating is worth the effort. Also recently I've been having a lot of arguments with my fiance, been stressed about wedding planning and money, and worried about classes and work. All of that combined makes me just not want to eat when I'm alone with my thoughts. Sometimes I'll have thoughts like "Well at least maybe I'll lose weight this way" though I don't think that's my main motivation. Like if someone made me food I would gladly eat it, I just won't take the time to make it myself. Could this develop into a full blown eating disorder? Should I take this as a warning sign?

I need to do something about it, I'm starting to feel how little energy I have. I tried to bike to work and I could barely do it. I had to walk most of the way. Any tips for how to make myself eat?
 
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If you can, set an alarm and get yourself up for a simple breakfast, no cooking. And try to get to sleep earlier by turning off the laptop. Read a book or something simple. Exercise during the daylight to help change your routine. It's just these habits you have gotten into because you may be a bit depressed.
 
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Hi, I've not got any experience of eating disorders, but what you describe sounds a lot like I am when I am depressed. I generally lose weight when I am depressed just because I lose my appetite and can't be bothered to eat rather than through any need to control my eating or weight.

Have you seen your Dr for the depression? They can help with this.
 
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Andy1970

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Hi just joined so I can post my problem.
I have a loss of appetite problem.
I am male, aged 48, height 5’” 5” and 7 stonne.
From the age of 3 to 17 I would never eat meat because I wouldn’t eat animals, did not like veg or salad. I just eat chips, crisps and chocolate, which made me a skinny kid, but did feel hungry at meal times and was healthy.
Age 17 - 47 I started eating meat as I came to terms with how animals were killed, but never had a great appetite, was of average weight, but still never liked salad and veg.
Last year I found out about Halal meat, and due to loving animals more than humans, I started researching Halal. My discoveries led me to stop eating meat again. I starting losing weight slowly over the next 10 months, but still I could eat chips, chocolate, crisps, cakes etc.. The last couple of months I have had a complete loss of appetite, as more information is coming out about Halal, Now I find out any foods could be Halal.
I went to my GP and explained the above and asked for advice. My GP sent me for blood tests, they came back fine. When I visited my GP again to discuss my options he just said starting eating small portions of your favourite food 4 - 5 times a day. I explained that I no longer have no appetite, due to Halal and when I try to eat I have to force eat, which I find very difficult as I just see animals throats slit in my mind. He just said well you have to eat or you will become ill. I explained I know that that’s why I was there. He then just said try, and come back in a month. This was 3 weeks ago and the more I try the harder it gets, I am now losing weight rapidly and look terrible.
I am at my wits end and now thinking of buying steroids from the black market to put weight on as I only drink Milk and small amounts of veg and salad, as this is the only food I can trust.
Does anybody else have a similar problem, as now I am starting to get depressed.
I can’t see any point in going back to the GP, the way he spoke to me made me feel like I was wasting his time, I also believe he will say buy Halal free food, anybody’s that’s researched Halal will know its impossible to be sure what’ts Halal and what’ts not, as the supply chain is complex and anything now could be Halal even chocolate and crisps and even chips because there is always some ingredients that can contain some part of the animals. So I don’t know what food I can trust anymore.
I am also a christian, how can I eat food that’s been worshiped by a religion I don’t believe in and an animal that’s been killed in a cruel, painful manner.
So at present, my only food intact is Milk, small amounts of veg and salad, which I have never liked but these are the only foods I can trust.
This might sound stupid to some but to me it isn’t is it a mental health problem I just don’t know.
 
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Dear Andy, I can really relate. I want to be vegetarian but I live with a person who eats meat. You should be eating lots of beans and brown rice with cheese on top. You can also eat tofu.

Because you are a Christian, perhaps Kosher foods would appeal to you as the Jewish religion was the original religion of Jesus ?? Even Jesus said you could eat pork, you know. But now a days the pigs are all stuck in a horrid factory farm, so it's not so nice to financially contribute to their suffering. I want to use my consumer power in the right way. I only get eggs from chickens that are free to roam about, not stuck in cages. That's something you can eat maybe. Non fertilized eggs that were never going to be a chicken. I eat those without guilt.

I don't think this is a mental health problem. You are just sensitive like me. I'm happy to talk to you about this. It's such a problem for me because I feel I can't sleep well if I just eat vegetarian and I also feel I will be hypo manic if I just eat vegetarian. Those are real problems for me.
 
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there is loads of vegan and vegetarian foods you can eat? what is wrong with them?
 
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claude

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Hi Andy

Helena makes a good point, if you buy vegetarian or vegan certified foods there is no way they will contain any meat product, halal or otherwise. You can get hearty things like pasta and flapjacks to help fill you up safe in the knowledge that they won't contain any meat product whatsoever.

It sounds to me like you would benefit from therapy to tackle this problem, hopefully a therapist can work with you to lower your distress from the intrusive thoughts of animals you are suffering. It seems kind of crap that the gp did not suggest this straight away considering the impact it is having on you. Some gps are really rubbish when it comes to mental and emotional problems like this. I'm sorry that the doctor was not more supportive. Can you make an appointment with a different gp at your practice if the next appointment with this doctor you have is not helpful?

Good luck and keep posting on the forum, it can be a good place to let out worries and get support
 
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VerySadgirl

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Hi Andy, this really sounds like a food phobia (cibophobia I think) which has never been tackled. Please note I'm note im NOT any sort of medical professional (I work in a shoe shop!) But it does sound like this. My advice is from now, this moment, eat whatever you can, try not to worry if you can't and as soon as your drs is open book to see another Dr. You need proper help with this. The Dr you saw was crap and that's not professional of them. Tell them you can't deal with this any longer and need help now. If they don't listen even when you are firm, see anther dr. Just keep booking appointment's. That's what they are there for. It makes my blood boil when drs ignore mental health. You could look for food phobia help groups too. Don't give up, keep fighting. You will be okay. You just need to fight for help. Your not alone in this honey, forums are an amazing tool of support x
 
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