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megirl

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Back to this again. I work as a cleaner doing some offices etc In work in the evening. Which means i only see my hubby in the weekend I am over it. There just arent any jobs that would suit me. I cant work shift work. Due to my meds i find it hard to get going in the morning. I certainly cant work nights. I just dont know what to do with my life. The thing is I just dont want to be working in the evenings hardly seeing my husband!
We could manage financially without ,me working but then what would I do?
Its a hard one. As an ex-nurse I cant do the stress thing anymore. It would frustrate me working in a resthome either as a nurse or nurse aide.As I know how short-staffed restomes are and with un-trained carers. And its always going to be shift work and/or weekends.
I am whingeing and should be greatful with what I do have but i dont want to be

doing this work for the rest of my life!
And i miss my husband damn it

What to do
i just dont know
 
Unique1

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Hiya.

If you can give up work. What about doing some voluntary work in something you love.
Like working with animals if you love animals.
I'm sure there could be some interesting voluntary work around to suit what you enjoy.
You could choose your hours to see more of your husband and enjoy what you do.
Maybe get a paid job part time doing it eventually.

Sorry if that's not helpful for whatever reason.
Don't feel you are whinging it is important to seek out things that make us feel better, happier.
I believe things can change :)
Best wishes
Unique xx
 
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Thanks for your reply.
Yes I dont really have any pressure financially I currently work about 25 hours a week. Talked to hubby about what to do re my job.
I might give up my wednesday then just work the monday tuesday, Thursday and Friday.
I went and saw someone at a work bridge place who can assist you with your cv and they can also have a look for jobs and applying too jobs you may be interested in. So I sent an application for some support worker work. Just going to elderly peoples homes and assisting with some personal cares and house work etc. The work will be casual so no pressure just fill in work that suits me.
I think it will be nice to work with the elderly. And yes I may do some voluntary work if theres something i am interested in.
Had a think about things and have really just been thinking maybe i am being bit lazy etc. Which is silly I as many know that having any type of illness or disability may restrict what we can cope with. I just am being hard on myself. If i do put too much pressure on myself I may indeed get unwell. So being realistic it doesnt matter what the outside world may 'think' of me but this is about my health and what is right for me. (sorry about waffling yes i certainly feel much more settled in myself.
 
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Hi there.
The last time I worked I was undiagnosed And there were plenty of times I had to decide between calling in sick or going in and trying to make the most of it.
I managed for a time in a fashion by piling the work when I was low and trying to catch up when I was OK or high. For me reality is not what it might be when Im high so I made loads of mistakes and it all ended badly..
I did retrain to do something that seemed to be easier but the problem is that an employer requires a consistent performance all the time and this just isnt realistic from someone from someone with bipolar.
I was fortunate in that I was able to give up work and became a househusband, but eventually kids grow up and can manage without you.
So my next project was to move into a house that needed lots of work. This was perfect as I only worked when I felt able and when I was able I could use my creativity to solve problems etc.
If you dont need to work and it affects you adversely dont do it. Its a 4 letter word, only fools and horses and all that.
 
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Hi notlobyob
welcome!!

Hey thank-you for our reply. How are things for you now.
Yes well I am fortunate that as my husbands family/well his dad really, they believe the more you invest and earn.....etc...the happier you will be..lol
But anyway my husband luckily doesn't fool for that. What we have is enough and good health is at the top, otherwise nothing really matters.
I am still contemplating really work or maybe i need to get back into some voluntary work. I have my dog who i spend a lot of time with and a couple of great friends. So all is well but yeh i would love to do something different. I am actually thinking of maybe getting involved in something like riding horses for the disabled or something similiar i would like a bit of a challenge and i think i would really love it!
I did love my old job but sometimes its easier to nurture others than ones self

But thats the is the thing with bipolar the ups and downs even though they arent extreme anymore but i can be easily triggered, sometimes lifes a bit much really and i have to step back at times and rethink
 
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notlobyob

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Hi notlobyob
welcome!!

Hey thank-you for our reply. How are things for you now.
Yes well I am fortunate that as my husbands family/well his dad really, they believe the more you invest and earn.....etc...the happier you will be..lol
But anyway my husband luckily doesn't fool for that. What we have is enough and good health is at the top, otherwise nothing really matters.
I am still contemplating really work or maybe i need to get back into some voluntary work. I have my dog who i spend a lot of time with and a couple of great friends. So all is well but yeh i would love to do something different. I am actually thinking of maybe getting involved in something like riding horses for the disabled or something similiar i would like a bit of a challenge and i think i would really love it!
I did love my old job but sometimes its easier to nurture others than ones self

But thats the is the thing with bipolar the ups and downs even though they arent extreme anymore but i can be easily triggered, sometimes lifes a bit much really and i have to step back at times and rethink
Hello again, Im fine at the moment and seem to have been so for some time. You seem OK.
My hope is that I dont appear to be that fine that people start finding employment for me.
Im happy doing stuff at home but Im sure that I could contribute more but theres no way I would want to risk getting back into a cycle of work-illness-hospitalisation-unemployment.
I do think that its a great shame as people with bipolar have so much too contribute and if you could come up with something to reduce the stress of failing due to the illness which would actually reduce the chance of failing due to the illness it would helpful.
As it is the individual has to play Russian roulette with their symptoms so its hardly surprising that many of them decide not to work.
 
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