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Work Anxiety is crippling me everyday

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I've been diagnosed with anxiety for about 2 years now and it has always had a negative impact on my work. If I make any kind of mistake my brain tells me that I am rubbish at my job and I'm going to get fired and then I spend the rest of the day panicking about my job security and telling myself that I'm an idiot who isn't any good at anything.
The same pattern happens, i tell myself that once I start messing up that's it, it's just downhill from there and I always end up proving myself right. My husband tells me I'm being too hard on myself but every time I do something wrong it becomes a huge weight and I feel like a complete failure. I worry that my boss doesn't like me because I'm so useless and read into everything they say. I take criticism very seriously and always work very hard to correct any failings. But once I've got past that I'll mess something else up and the cycle will start all over again.
I try to budget and plan for things to help with my money anxiety but that just increases my anxiety because then I'm worrying about how I'm gonna pay things when I get fired/fail my probation.

Has anyone else had this problem? If so how did you over come it?! Does anyone else have any advice because I would appreciate it so much.
I have tried asking my manager if everything's okay but I worry if I ask too much I'm gonna be a pain and she'll just think worse of me if I bother her all the time.
 
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its a vicious cycle to get into isn't it? I know it sounds totally different, but I am the same driving a car. By the time I have analysed what I might do wrong, have done wrong etc I am sure to make a mistake as a self fulfilling prophesy. I can ony say that I sympathise with you.

Have you tried looking into DBT? That is dialectical behavioural therapy. There are books on the internet which can help with this. It teaches core skills to deal with anxiety particularly. Thre is abook I recommend called Emotional Hijacking by Marlene Schneider Potter. It is written very simply in large letters as she realises that people in the throws of anxiety will struggle to read walls of text. I don't know if you can still get it on Amazon or not. It is well worth a read though.
 
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Thanks I'll have a look and see if I can find that book! It really is a horrible cycle and I do it all the time. Just wish I could shake it :(
 
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I feel the same in work. Constantly feel sick and get headaches by the time I'm going home. I would quietly ask if a person is annoyed at me or if something is being said behind my back but then I feel like I'm annoying them and have overheard people saying I'm paranoid and that I do these things for attention.

Now I've struggled and off since I was a teenager with this but I can never bring myself to pick up the phone and call a doctor no matter how much I want to or know I need to. Talking on a phone or to a person's face about it is too hard for me. Have you found a way to overcome it?
 
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I can 'spitball' advice to try to help, but I find that anxiety-related issues are often very situational, you'd do well speaking to a counselor or therapist - who can teach you how to deal with the root of your anxiety and provide you with valuable coping skills. I am not a therapist, but I can attempt to help.

I do see that your identity seems to be rooted in what others may think, where do you think this is from? Anxiety, as much as it is a psychological disorder, I can attest to this, I was diagnosed with obsessive compulsive disorder - anxiety is also caused. So what do you believe cause this? Planned and controlled self-reflection could help - just don't let it spiral, set a time to reflect and then stop.

I am just spitballing here. I hope this helps in some way.

Stay strong :)
 
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