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Work Affecting My Mental Health

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MsK88

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Hi all,

I have been in a full time job for almost 5 months that I HATE with literally every single cell in my body. When I saw the role advertised it seemed like the exact job I wanted to do - lots of time out the office meeting clients, doing assessments with potential clients and overseeing the volunteers. Except it has been NOTHING like that. I'm not lying when I say 90% of the 5 months i've been here have been me surfing the web, trying to kill time and clock watching, trying not to literally cry from boredom and frustration. It's 100% office based and I cannot do it anymore. Because of my anxiety, I find it really difficult to withstand being bored, and I need a lot of mental challenge and stimulation - I operate best when I'm busy, stressed and full-on. My friends tell me how 'lucky' I am to get paid to sit and do literally nothing, and tell me to stop being so ungrateful. I just dont know how to cope with this anymore.

This is my first job upon completion of my masters degree and I just feel so crappy that I've been offered something that is so far from what was advertised. When I'm not at work, all I think about it work and how much I hate being there. It's impacting my mental health (I have mild depression and quite bad anxiety) and I feel quite worthless that I am well educated but stuck somewhere so unhappy. My friends and family notice how miserable and withdrawn I have become and are concerned.

I think I will leave today. I can't do it anymore. Luckily i have a part time retail job on the side to help me until I find a new job. Has anyone been in this position, and what did you do? Thank you.
 
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JamFRUK

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My first job was much like that. Well paid but horrifyingly boring and uninteresting. I spent most of my time texting my then first boyfriend.
I left after 8 months for a better paid job but still nothing like I hoped, much like yours advertisement was far from the reality. I had to go through 2 mote of these not always well paid, but always terrible jobs before finding my dream job.
If you feel horrible and can afford to, quit, don't look back. The experience will still be good on your CV hopefully. Don't drain your mental health for a job. I learned that the hard way recently. If this I'd your first job, be aware you might have to go through a few bad gigs before landing the one you really will love. My advice is take the experience for your CV if that happens.
Good luck and number one first, don't let the job destroy your mental health.
 
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hicks

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Get out of that job now. I have been in your position, stuck with very little to do. It was very bad for my mental state. I like to be busy all day like you, and doing nothing is boring as hell. Plus it adds literally nothing to your experience or skills.
 
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Stallone91

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I had a job working as a county level case manager after getting my masters and I HATED it. It paid well but it made me so stressed that I got physically ill and so depressed that I would literally get home from work and go to bed dreading waking up in the morning to go to work. I finally quit after getting a bullsh*t review and then got a crappy factory job. However I looked for other work and now have a job that I enjoy. It doesn't pay as well but I'm no longer getting sick and can tolerate going to work each day.

I had to figure out what I wanted in a job and realize what I didn't want. Like I need a low stress job, prefer to work at night to have my days open, and management that acknowledges hard work and communicates openly with staff. Maybe that will help you find a job that you enjoy? I am in the process of switching careers and going back to school because what I thought I wanted turned out to not be good for me. It's never too late to change your path in life :)
 
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hicks

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I had to figure out what I wanted in a job and realize what I didn't want. Like I need a low stress job
That is precisely why I'm not interested in climbing the corporate ladder. Because that middle management zone is a hell. I'm not gonna be super rich doing the job I am, but it's by and large no real stress or pressure, which suits me fine. And I mostly enjoy the work.
 
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JCPraha

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It is a common problem. Many jobs are far from what we would like them to me. Best to leave the job and seek something else. It sounds like you have a lot of talent and energy, so you will find something more suitable.
 
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