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Winning an argument

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George10111

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Hi I hope everyone is having a good day. This isn't to promote negativity or anything like that. I'm just listing off a few options on how to win or settle an argument.

1. Keep your cool.
It's tempting to lash out and get into an attacking mode. It is best to stay rational even if the other person is tearing you apart. A fight through cyberspace is different then a face to face argument. Me and my brother rarely ever fight and when we do its always through text messages and its usually always him starting it, my older brother, and not to get dirt on him. Sometimes I choose not to read all the text messages, the more irrational he or someone gets and they more they try to escalate. In person its very important to keep your cool and stand your ground. Establish boundaries. Speak boldly

2. Listen to your offender.

This is better to do in person and is easier said then done. Unless its a completely irrational debate then its important to listen to them and put yourself in their shoes to understand where they're coming from. Try to reason with them. If they won't even listen to you and they're arguing with you for the sake of hurting you then walk away or don't reply. Its not worth escalating the situation and you can win an argument just by walking away and not allowing it to hurt your feelings. Silence is the number one killer.

3. Realizing disagreements are inevitable. Don't be a doormat just to avoid arguments.

We're all afraid of confrontation to a degree. Disagreements are inevitable. Its important to stand your ground and get your point out there, learning to say NO. You don't have to take someone else's crap for the sake of avoiding confrontation.
 
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