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Why try to be happy?

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BpTyrant

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Anybody ever feel like trying to stay happy for a long amount of time is a futile endeavor?

I can find ways to be happy sometimes; but it seems like instead of trying to go for greatness I would struggle a lot less to settle for contentness and mediocrity

I mean I am still trying to move things ahead, but it is not easy and sometimes any setback; even minor just feels like the biggest blow ever.
 
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The key to being happy is to live in the present -- practise mindfulness meditation.
 
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The key to being happy is to live in the present -- practise mindfulness meditation.
Problem is sometimes my present is great; I can relax and enjoy myself when I am off work

But on the clock sometimes work is stressful, sometimes it's slow

Sometimes I am overly stressed because there is a lazy mean supervisor with nothing better to do, than to watch me work, making me nervous and stressed out

If I knew I was moving out of state (like we are planning on) I would tell him off because it is BS that he can be paid to watch people work and harass them if he thinks work isnt fast enough to satisfy him (I could be working, but if I am working slow because the work isnt there he is never satisfied)
 
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sometimes happiness is unexpected when it comes along
I have been sad for 38 years but this year I met the man of my dreams and now I have sunshine in my life
I believe happiness is worth striving for xxx
 
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If I felt good it had to stay otherwise it was a calamity.

After 17 years of on and off depression and anxiety I have learned to ssay : well my good mood will come back. I just live with it. I don't live in the present moment but I accept the situation.

Sometimes I am very anxious and I struggle to do this.

Helen x
 
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sometimes happiness is unexpected when it comes along
I have been sad for 38 years but this year I met the man of my dreams and now I have sunshine in my life
I believe happiness is worth striving for xxx
Well congrats, I think I will probably always be lonely because I don't want to be a burden to someone else; and I think I will always have the problems I have to some degree
 
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Well congrats, I think I will probably always be lonely because I don't want to be a burden to someone else; and I think I will always have the problems I have to some degree
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Nobody takes me up on this.

Despite having lots of people round I can no longer burden them.

My friends are the Samaritans. 99% of them are amazing. Yes you never get the same one but you always get non judgemental compassion. I don't know what I'd do without them.
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I think to be contented in oneself and satisfied is more important than the word happiness.
To be relaxed and getting pleasure out of life is key
 
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Bp tyrant

Nobody takes me up on this.

Despite having lots of people round I can no longer burden them.

My friends are the Samaritans. 99% of them are amazing. Yes you never get the same one but you always get non judgemental compassion. I don't know what I'd do without them.
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I dont even have anywhere to give me mental health support anymore, because I had a place and they dropped me and said they couldn't send my medication in for refills

But they want me to send them money that I supposedly owe them

I wish they would take me to court, so I could tell them it was income based, i was making like $4 an hour (that's how Job Training programs are in my area, they can pay workers below minimum wage) and i was trying to pay them, but because it wasnt enough they dropped me and i had to suffer withdrawal until i could get a new place to prescribe my medication

It was so bad i felt like resorting to Self Harm Again, but instead i went to a hospital and they gave me a single pill of the medication i should have had and gave me a short prescription and let me go

That happened twice in the course of 2 weeks
 
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Bp Tyrant

You perhaps live in the USA. Scary stuff. Here in Britain we have a National health service where everything is free.

Tbh things will change. Our govt wants to sell it off. That really scares me. At least it will take a number of years to set up as virtually no one has insurance here. I am 59. Hopefully I will have died by the time it's gone.

I answered your posts a couple of weeks ago, feeling well. Now I "m not good. My doctor increase my med but I am a worrier and my husband's been losing weight. Stress makes me ill mentally.

So right now living one day at a time is so hard. I say, it is as it is.

I hope you have a better day.

Helen xx
 
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I just can't remember the last time I felt happy
 
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yes i always feel like sad and tired. I Start irritating when someone who know me try to be kind with me.
 
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