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Why social anxiety can be a disorder

jajingna

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A disorder implies that something is not functioning properly. With social anxiety disorder, what do you suppose is happening, that is not a normal reaction? What is going on in your brain, and in your mind, your feelings and thoughts, and in your nervous system too, that isn't the way you want?

I think it's a disorder for me because I've learned the response is automatic and I cannot control it. To me it seems like a faulty security system whose alarm is too easily set off. Imagine that alarm going off frequently for no obvious reason. No one is trying to break in, maybe someone is just walking past the house. Yet the alarm goes off a bunch of times every day despite the risk of a break-in being low to nonexistent. Really the neighborhood, so to speak, may be a totally safe one, yet you've got a faulty alarm system that goes off all the time. Pretty annoying.

It reminds me off all those damn dogs in this neighborhood barking at me as I walk down the street. I guess their alarm system is on high alert too.

Why is this happening? And what can we do about it? You'd call in a technician to fix an alarm that kept going off needlessly. It seems like we need a different sort of technician, or to learn how to repair it ourselves somehow.
 
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It's crippling.
 
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Yes understand this completely...in fact had a meeting this morning and am still beating myself up about it because I feel like I was too quiet/said the wrong thing/everyone is despairing with me and this is why it's a disorder for me - a normal response would be to realise its okay and move on, but I go over and over and over it and I can't stop the torrent of negative thoughts
 
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