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Why is someone's weight always considered fair game for insults and jibes?

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It seems whatever company you're in people consider someone's weight fair game. It doesn't seem to matter if the company seems more intelligent, the same things come out. I was in an office yesterday where a bag of sweets was doing the rounds and of course when it got to me there was the usual 'make sure you don't eat them all' comment from someone which sparked sniggering from a couple of others. It just seems weight is thought of as fair game in a way that other physical things aren't and not even in an even-handed way. If there's an article in a paper about a large person that is flattering weight probably won't be mentioned yet if it was a negative piece you can guarantee they'll be described as 'fat'.
 
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Someone at work as a joke called me a fatty. At the time I was bulking big at the GYM so I knew what I was doing. But that comment only motivated me to bleed twice harder at the GYM. I lost weight and I go to the GYM every day. I don't go there for maintenance. I say to my self and my GYM buddies, "we're going in that GYM now, and we only come out by ambulance". We're super serious about that and we would do anything to achieve our goals:



I don't count my reps until it starts to hurt, cause that's when it really matters, and the more I hurt, the closer I am to achieving my goal. There's no other way around hard ass work, blood, and pain...so much of it that you can't recall your name. And when you come out of it, you're a conqueror, everyone moves out of your way knowing that if they accidentally bumped into you they would dislocate something.

You become a furious beast, a brute, a countryman, an ANIMAL.

It's up to you to decide who you want to be.
 
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I have always been made fun of for being skinny all my life-well that has changed over the last year due to medications. I never made fun of heavy people as I knew what it was like to be made fun of. Screw them and all the rest-let that guy -animal who posted do his best I would not look twice.
 
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Do seven press ups then get back to me guys. I go all in, dont count my reps till i get to seven, thats the magic number. All about them gains.
 
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Do seven press ups then get back to me guys. I go all in, dont count my reps till i get to seven, thats the magic number. All about them gains.
That's right I do the same. If you want to get something out, you gotta put something in.

You get out what you put in. So there can't ever be any complaining about it because YOU did this. The buddy at work did not do this. It's you all the way. It was always you.

There's no such thing as over-training, no matter how much you train there's always room for more and it's never enough.

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Each time you train. You should aim to shock the muscles, adding more weights as you gain confidence. Then you will feel your muscles regenerate stronger and overall strength is improved. Watch videos on youtube and get informed about your body and how protien works its really interesting.
 
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It seems whatever company you're in people consider someone's weight fair game. It doesn't seem to matter if the company seems more intelligent, the same things come out. I was in an office yesterday where a bag of sweets was doing the rounds and of course when it got to me there was the usual 'make sure you don't eat them all' comment from someone which sparked sniggering from a couple of others. It just seems weight is thought of as fair game in a way that other physical things aren't and not even in an even-handed way. If there's an article in a paper about a large person that is flattering weight probably won't be mentioned yet if it was a negative piece you can guarantee they'll be described as 'fat'.
You can lose the weight but they will always be assholes. Even if you don’t lose the weight, they’re still assholes. Consider the source.
 
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I've been skinny shamed many times, but the only time I've been fat shamed was by someone two times larger than me, so that was... interesting
 
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I don't get the mentality of people who do it and I think it must be a bit of a male on male thing. I mean, could you imagine the stink if someone made a comment about a woman's weight in an office? It would be straight to human resources.
 
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I don't get the mentality of people who do it and I think it must be a bit of a male on male thing. I mean, could you imagine the stink if someone made a comment about a woman's weight in an office? It would be straight to human resources.
there can be a lot of weight shaming in female friend groups especially because of the competitive nature
 
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Maybe if people wouldn't fat shame people more people would be confident with their body. FYI people when you call someone fat or make fun of their weight to try to make them feel bad and have them lose weight you are mostly doing the opposite and making then feel even worse about themselves and making them want to turn to food to comfort themselves
 
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fat shaming and fat acceptance are both not okay
 
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They're just really immature. I don't hear jabs like that about overweight people from anyone older than like 14, but then again I don't spend my time around assholes if I can help it.

Commenting on other peoples' bodies is obnoxious in general. I don't know why it's necessary to point out that someone gained weight/lost weight/is really tall/has big boobs/is going bald etc, it's not like they aren't aware. When someone comments "hey you lost weight" it's really hard not to respond with "yah, that's cause I have had really bad diarrhea and been abusing hard drugs!" but that is frowned upon in the workplace so I kept my mouth shut.
 
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