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Why I Do It

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Snowshoes68

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I get the feeling that I've done something wrong or have offended someone I care about. I can endlessly list reasons in my head but I don't know what other people are thinking.

So if someone tells me I've wronged them, I'm ready. I can say that I've pro actively taken actions to correct this and prove that I'm trying and I'm not a bad person. I punish myself because I'm afraid someone thinks I do bad/mean/hurtful things.

I'm not a bad person but maybe I do bad things. I am aware and I can prove it with my scars. I don't like it either. I'm not a bad person.
 
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Acorn

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It’s good that you can see you’re not a bad person.

The thing is you cannot tell what others are thinking and feeling. You are punishing yourself just in case, you have no proof. Would you punish a child for the possibility they might have done something wrong? There would always be a reason if you punish on possibilities. I’m wondering if that is a comforting excuse. A constant. A reason.
 
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