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Why does my enemy always prosper?

Linda1989

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Everytime someone treat me like crap good things happen to them like they are being rewarded for making my life miserable. I notice when some people show me a ouce of kindness bad things happen to them. Im not going crazy its been happening to often i been noticing it.
 
Signofthetimes

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Hi Linda, good and bad things happen to everyone. Do you think that you are more connected to the people that show you kindness so you are more likely to notice when bad things happen to them? xo
 
MildlyIrritated

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There's no order to the life or the universe that we can see.

What there is are things cognitive biases, little shortcoming of the human brain that makes us see things with biases when reality doesn't reflect them.

Basically, for whatever reason you got this idea into your head and every time something happened that supported it made you believe in it harder while any time something happened that didn't support it your mind ignored it. That one in particular is called confirmation bias.

It's also possible that it's in fact just one very large, rare coincidence.
 
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Could be confirmation bias as MildlyIrritated says.

Could also be a sort of 'selection effect', because it could be that people are kinder because they are in a vulnerable position themselves and so have more empathy, and that also makes them more likely to subsequently suffer misfortune.

Whereas people in positions of security and power can lack empathy and also tend to do well, because good fortune breeds more good fortune (which they then tend to interpret as a sign that they are better than other people, making them even worse).
 
soulsearcher

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God works in mysterious ways, what is meant for will always reach you and what is never meant for you will never reach, trust God 🤲
 
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