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dewey
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My close friend has a history of mental health problems including depression/anorexia and is currently struggling again. I know she is not doing well. I also have depression and whenever I am low, she has always been there for me and helps me out loads. We have had a close friendship for a few years now. However when she gets down and low for a while, she doesn't talk to me hardly at all. She just shuts me out, but she still seems to talk to other people judging from her social media posts. I don't get why this is, it makes me feel hurt, rejected and abandoned, and I just don't understand it. It makes me feel insecure and like she doesn't really like me at all, even though I know in my mind, she is going through something.
I wonder why is it she is shutting me out but still seems to talk to others? Is it because she can be fake with these people and cover it up with them, but she knows she can't pretend with me and would have to actually open up? Is it because she doesn't want to burden me with her problems when she knows I have problems of my own? Or does she just not value me as a friend and has our whole friendship been a lie? It doesn't feel like a lie from my angle, so I just don't understand her behaviour.
Overall I would like to be there for her and help her, so it is worrying when she behaves this way. Please can someone give some wisdom
I wonder why is it she is shutting me out but still seems to talk to others? Is it because she can be fake with these people and cover it up with them, but she knows she can't pretend with me and would have to actually open up? Is it because she doesn't want to burden me with her problems when she knows I have problems of my own? Or does she just not value me as a friend and has our whole friendship been a lie? It doesn't feel like a lie from my angle, so I just don't understand her behaviour.
Overall I would like to be there for her and help her, so it is worrying when she behaves this way. Please can someone give some wisdom