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Why does everyone leave me

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peachy123

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Why does everyone leave me when my mental health gets “too bad”

I wish I could run away from this.

Feeling low and worthless.
 
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Candy19

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I guess because the negative energy pushes them away

I know it sucks, I've lost so many friends who I thought would be there for me when things got bad, but I guess you just have to try and find better friends
 
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peachy123

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Makes me very scared to make friends. I feel like what’s the point in investing in friendships when they turn sour when my head gets screwed up.

Even though at the beginning I tell them how bad it can get and they freely promise to not be like everyone else. I don’t make them promise they just do.
 
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I think when people make such promises they don't mean to lie, it is just very hard to support a friend with mental health problems, it does cause an effect on their on wellbeing and whilst they may think they can cope they may not be able to in the long term. I don't think it makes them a bad person or friend, we all take on things we think we can cope with then find out we can't.
Do you have a therapist? Maybe you are relying too much on your fiends for emotional support and if you do that less then they may stick around.

I have long given up making friends as I don't think it is fair on them to have to put up with me when I am bad and as you say they do have a tendency to leave you. If I ever get better I may try to get some.
 
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peachy123

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I know you’re right. It’s just very hard knowing that people leave because of you and you’re like this coz of things that happened to you, you couldn’t control.

I hope it won’t always be like this. I hope someday someone stays because of me.
 
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Hi peachy123,

Sorry to hear that. I think it's because of a combination of things. Generally, people don't like to stay with "negative" people, so they tend to stay away. It's a shame, because it's during those bad times that you could really use the help of a friend!x

Much love <3
 
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peachy123

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However selfish this sounds so bare with me.

I firmly believe had she not met this guy I don’t think I would of got so unwell again. She would of stuck by me and helped me through the bad bits.

But she now says her life is now better without me.

Who even says that.
 
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If they did not stay by you're side.....

They are not the right one for you.

When you find the right person, you just know it. Wish I could expand on that but right now its dificult for me!!!

Dont worry about the ones that leave you. They clearly wern't the right one. You will find them and when you do "nothing" will divide you.;)

Never give up hope!!!! They are looking for you!!!
 
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