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Why do I do what I do

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I can't begin to imagine how hurt you must be. X
 
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Its overwhelming most days, headaches, no sleep - thank you for your comment
I know that this may be so stressful for you. I hope that you will find the answer. It's wonderful that you are finding this forum helpful. I'm so glad that I stumbled upon it.
 
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I know that this may be so stressful for you. I hope that you will find the answer. It's wonderful that you are finding this forum helpful. I'm so glad that I stumbled upon it.
I hope i do too, there has been some helpful insight and support so far that is deeply appreciated. Thank you!
 
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I hope i do too, there has been some helpful insight and support so far that is deeply appreciated. Thank you!
You are most welcome
 
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have a lovely weekend
I hope that you will have a good weekend too considering. It's so difficult when you are at the stage that you can't sleep. Have you managed to get some help
 
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I hope that you will have a good weekend too considering. It's so difficult when you are at the stage that you can't sleep. Have you managed to get some help
I have been seeing a therapist, (as if i'm the one who needs to!!) to help me sort through my feelings of why I'm holding on when I should not, it has been enlightening, but I have yet to actually end things, even thought it will end. I have my own self esteem issues, so its hard, but i'm actively trying to improve.
 
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I have been seeing a therapist, (as if i'm the one who needs to!!) to help me sort through my feelings of why I'm holding on when I should not, it has been enlightening, but I have yet to actually end things, even thought it will end. I have my own self esteem issues, so its hard, but i'm actively trying to improve.
That's good, I'm not surprised that you are struggling with self esteem. Women can destroy a man! I'm a woman too! But I can see how some women can destroy a man!
 
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That's good, I'm not surprised that you are struggling with self esteem. Women can destroy a man! I'm a woman too! But I can see how some women can destroy a man!
nothing has made me feel so devastated, you just feel like complete garbage
 
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Hello again folks, I just wanted to give you an update. Things were going fairly ok, not great but better I guess. I was filled with an overwhelming desire to keep my family together no matter what I had to endure, for sure that was my own issues with failure. The past three weeks she however has been really withdrawn and not very talkative. She goes from good to dark very quickly. She has been very impatient with my daughter and her feelings or if she is upset. She is just going through the emotions with me, one word answers, no eye contact. And when I called her out on it she just has nothing to say, extremely brisk with her words and the way she moves through the house. Bristles at anything done for her, like saving her leftovers or asking if she wants coffee. Its been a weak of this emotional abuse and of course I question my resolve in staying in this. Then today she send me a text about 'when someone you love has depression' I have no idea how to respond to that?! Any advice out there, of course deeply appreciated.
 
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Hello again folks, I just wanted to give you an update. Things were going fairly ok, not great but better I guess. I was filled with an overwhelming desire to keep my family together no matter what I had to endure, for sure that was my own issues with failure. The past three weeks she however has been really withdrawn and not very talkative. She goes from good to dark very quickly. She has been very impatient with my daughter and her feelings or if she is upset. She is just going through the emotions with me, one word answers, no eye contact. And when I called her out on it she just has nothing to say, extremely brisk with her words and the way she moves through the house. Bristles at anything done for her, like saving her leftovers or asking if she wants coffee. Its been a weak of this emotional abuse and of course I question my resolve in staying in this. Then today she send me a text about 'when someone you love has depression' I have no idea how to respond to that?! Any advice out there, of course deeply appreciated.
Has she been disagnosed with depression? :hug:
 
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she has so far refused to go to therapy, she lied about going a couple of years ago, but never actually went, she just pretended to go.
 
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