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Why are we hated? (23 year old sociopath)

SomeGuyWeKnow

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So I recently got diagnosed as a high functioning sociopath with narcissistic tendencies. I quickly learned that the world doesn't take too kindly to my kind. People started distancing themselves from me.

Every online article talks about the damage I can cause and paints me as a villain. I soon realised that I live in a world that hates and fears people like myself.

Yes, I do have a completely different perception of the world. I freeze when someone gets emotional in my presence because I lack empathy. Yes, I'm a skilled manipulator. But there's so much more going on underneath all of that. Things that those online articles conveniently neglect to mention.

I have hopes and dreams of my own. I can fall in love. I can get my heart broken. I can be happy, sad, angry and everything in between.

Don't get me wrong. I'm not trying to make myself out to be a victim, and by no means do I feel sorry for myself. I like who I am and how I am.

But I can't shake this feeling that myself and people like me are feared and hated because we're misunderstood. After all, it's natural for people to fear that which they don't understand.

But is it fair for us to be shunned because of something beyond our control? Is it right that we have to force ourselves to hide who we really are?
 
Mayflower7

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Hi,
Welcome to the forum
I'm so sorry for what your going thru, we are ill and shouldn't have to hide away etc
Take care
 
daffy

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Hi and welcome
I’m sorry that you feel like this about yourself but a lot of high functioning sociopaths run very successful businesses . It was even said that one of our prime ministers was one . It doesnt have to be a bad thing. You have certain abilities why not use them to your advantage.
 
calypso

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I think the fear comes from the damage that you can do. But I agree with daffy, why not look at being into business. You are probably well suited for a role which is about cut and thrust of life.

It is tricky one isn't it? So often sociopaths are seen as violent but the vast majority are not. I knew a surgeon once who was at the top of his field and was also clearly a narcissist and sociopathic. I think the job suited him to a tee. So there are important role models out there.

You lack empathy, but you can learn what others do when they empathise and see if it can be learned in some way theoretically for you.

I am pleased that you are happy with who you are though.
 
SomeGuyWeKnow

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Thanks all 3 of you. I really appreciate your open mindedness and your advice. I feel a bit more self-assured now. And as for my career...I'm a senior law student...and I'm not half bad at it:), so your advice about me going into business makes me feel pretty confident about my future.
 
calypso

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I hope you do well in Law. A barrister would be very good role for you as you can be ruthless in getting to the truth of a situation. Again, being a sociopath need not be a bad thing as such.
 
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