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Who would do this???

Confusedandanxious

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You're not an idiot. Not at all! You're a good person, which is why you find it so hard to see how he could be being so negative.

I think anybody with half a brain would know that what he is doing would not be helping. Would you share with him details of your new boyfriend? Especially information about when you have been intimate? The only time you would do that would be to try and hurt.

I think he is hurting more than you, and is trying to make you pay. I wouldnt be surprised if he doesnt even have another girlfriend and is sitting there wallowing in self pity as he sends you these texts.
 
Confusedandanxious

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I dont mean he is hurting more than you, sorry. I just mean he is not as over this as you are.
 
megirl

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I feel like I'm stupid or something
 
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No certainly I wouldn't be rubbing in his face if I had someone new,
Like who would do that.
I certainly would never hurt another human being like that who would??
 
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But anyway I deserve what I get
Well I deserve nothing more really
 
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Still very much struggling what's hes doing is maybe he thinks hes helping me? Is he just being kind?
 
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Anyway still dont get where hes coming from
 
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Who knows where hes at at.
Umm hurting more than me where did that come from??
Like how can he be hurting more than me??
Yeh what ever.
Hes the one that just randomly saidi that's it
I was
,well sick of justifying myself
Good night
 
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Well havnt heard from the ex since Saturday today's well almost Friday earlier today he text me ..' Hi nice day. Enjoy the sun' like wtf? I know he will text me this weekend to come around with Alice his girlfriend to meet the dog who has just cost me a shit load of money for his op. Didn't tell him because ages ago asked to help me out said 'well hes old now forget about it'???
Anyway so he's just written the dog off now wants to show sorry his fucking girlfriend. Who..I could carry on but anyway why does she have to meet MY dog

He and I must say very quickly changed the papers for his dog registration to MY name so guess I need to stand up and say what?? I dont know how to deal with this stuff
 
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I mean hes worth the money and am absolutely blessed I am allowed to pay the bill of I have a job which is fortunate but if he wants to see the dog he can fork out half the bill plus a year of dogfood
He wants her to meet the dog??
Still can't quite figure him out
 
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We have been apart for 18 months he has never once come around to take the dog for a walk, a run a swim or even looked after him.
Guess I need to start standing up for my dog as I would a child what right does he have to show his girlfriend is there a hidden agenda
 
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Its a funny position to be in I'm a soft kind of person try please people..

My ex well the reason the psych team thought I was ok was because I didn't tell them the truth as hes still fucking with my head.
 
megirl

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Thank you
Well just it's like without my feelings getting in the way gosh if my dog knew the extent of this his heart would be broken
Sadly when my ex came around maybe he chose to ignore it but I would say anything and the dog who loved my ex to bits actually snobbed him!!
My dog loved the whole world and everyone In it. But to snob anyone never seen it before.
 
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I find it so hard to stand up for myself

Yet its easy to do it for others.
For others if I felt the need would fight till my end of days.

Even when I was training to be a nurse I was told ..' You can be so meek and quiet but if need be you can be quite stroppy!! Ha of course why not
I will stand up for what I know is right and I won't back down

When I know I am certain itz safe too and I am right
 
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