- Apr 9, 2010
Yeh some of my friends think hes the best ex husband ever makes me feel like killing myself...maybe that's what he wants make his life easier
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If it was me, I WOULD reply to his messages immediately - but never deviate from the phrase "I'm fine thanks".So yes I find it difficult but just dont reply to his messages
HiyaMy ex just text me and told me Alice ...his new girlfriend are getting on great.... Then he sends me a picture of her.
Asks me how I am, I dont reply for three days. He texts me apparently concerned?? Like what? Anyway silly me texts back. Then he tells me she's off work for 4 days so they are spending that time together.
Umm..the other weekend he tells me shes great in bed??
And silly me still replys to his texts.
And now i m drinking.
Told my pdoc and support worker I dont have anything to do with him ...and no I'm not interested in drinking,
Lies and lies course I was happy to be discharged feels great now not too sure
As a man My view is this, his current relationship is not as wonderful as he is making out and so what he is really doing is keeping you available ‘just in case’. He doesn’t want to end up alone because that would make him feel vulnerable. In short, even if you still have feelings for him you would be wasting your time, because you would face a life of permanent suffering.Yeh some of my friends think hes the best ex husband ever makes me feel like killing myself...maybe that's what he wants make his life easier
I have to see he IS truly a loser. The reason why he is saying this to you is because he is an insecure loser, who feels the need to have power/a hold over you. If he is in contact with you and telling you these things, he feels he is a right casanova, that he can tell you these things (which he thinks gets an emotional response from you), at the same time as have a new girlfriend. That right there is him craving power, to prove to himself he still has a hold over you... and why would anyone feel the need to do this unless they are deeply insecure?I know that's what the psych team have told me and I lied and said yep I havnt had any contact with him here I am a lier and loser
Honestly, drinking... so difficult to resist because of all the social temptation. And when you feel like you have no one in the world, it feels like a friend. But it is the pure poison for anyone with mental health problems. Literally no way is alcohol going to be your friend or help you. It will just take you lower and fuck with your brain chemistry even more. Speak from experience.He is triggering me. All I'm doing is let it all happen. Its great he will help me if I need but really? I guess there's always a price to pay for everything. I need to get back on track. Yesterday at work because I hadn't been drinking for a few days I was more my friendly relaxed self. Interesting ..
Yep, just like in the other thread you were just helping me with, you gotta be careful who are your 'friends' and who are your actual friends.Actually you just hit the nail on the head. What is he doing for my mental well being,??? emotionally how's he helping???? No hes not doing me any good where it matters most. He knows I adore the dog, his dog really let me have him. Hes on double the money I am on and 10 times when I was on the benefit. Help me out with vaccinations, dog food etc no way!!