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bluemoon2

bluemoon2

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I am going through a mental health crisis. Two nights ago I went to my local emergency department because I wanted to commit suicide. One of my so-called friends then decided to jump on this event and has twisted words and events which my other friends have believed and now they no longer want to talk to me. They do not see that this girl has manipulated events to work in her favour and it's killing me inside seeing my friends dissapear when I have not done anything wrong. Of course, telling them this has only worked more in her favour.

She has lied and said that I 'was committing suicide and that it was all her fault' which is not true and something I would never ever say. If i was to commit suicide it would be on my own selfish terms and not on the terms of a potential sociopath.

I am now at a huge loss. I cannot function, I haven't been eating and have been throwing up a lot due to stress. I'm hoping to go into hospital voluntarily to get to grips with my now weakened state but this is being seen as a 'cry for help' by this girl and those she has turned in her favour. She also has a physical health condition and I have no doubt shes going to pull the hospital story on them too.

I cannot understand why people play games like this with people especially when they are mentally ill and in that vurnable state.
 
Anime-Alchemy

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I believe you should cut your ties with her. What if there is a scenario where all your friends turn against you, it will be their word against yours. And it could have very negative effects/results.
 
Sparklypurplepaws

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I'm sorry you are having to go through this x this person doesn't sound very nice - maybe you don't want or need that in your life?
 
In the Clouds

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I agree with what the others have said. Try your best to ignore her - I'm sorry but I don't see how a 'cry for help' is a bad thing? She shouldn't twist your words and those kind of people are not the people to be friends with imo. You're being very strong - look after yourself, that is more important. :)
 
bluemoon2

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Thanks guys. She has successfully taken three people out of my life including herself so far and has made an attempt on my best friend of 23+ years. It's a horrible time, abandonment is one of the worst things you can do with someone with BPD and she's a highly manipulative person who has gotten what she wants. All this because she wasn't happy that she was the centre of attention, people do go to A&E if suicidal thoughts get a bit much, but I shouldn't be made to feel punished for that; I made that call for help before it got out of hand.
 
bluemoon2

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I've made that hard decision to delete all of these people from my life and to move on as best as I can. I am heartbroken that such a soulless lie by another person has lost me seven friends including an ex-partner, but if nobody is willing to believe me then I have to unfortunately accept that. I know in my heart I never said that, it just kills me inside that others think i did and that's very hard to cope with.
 
katya

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I've made that hard decision to delete all of these people from my life and to move on as best as I can. I am heartbroken that such a soulless lie by another person has lost me seven friends including an ex-partner, but if nobody is willing to believe me then I have to unfortunately accept that. I know in my heart I never said that, it just kills me inside that others think i did and that's very hard to cope with.
Aw honey, I'm so sorry. You're making the right decision to cut them off. Maybe one day they'll seek out contact with you and maybe realise what this one woman has been up to in terms of turning people against you. For now, you must focus on yourself, and you can't do that in amongst all this toxicity. Wish you all the best.
 
bluemoon2

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Thanks for the support guys. It's been a horrific journey. I've just recently been diagnosed with BPD and it's hard enough coming to grips with that when people make assumptions on your condition from what they have read on google or seen in other people with the condition.

I went to A&E because my doctors and I never made up a safety plan and it all got overwhelming - I couldn't see a way out of the situation so I scratched myself to distract myself from the feelings and as a way of punishing myself for being, well, myself. I knew that the crisis team who works with my doctors would be there and I was told by my psychiatrist to go there if it ever got too much.

I never knew it was cyberbullying until my doctors brought it up. They've been following how I interact with all my relationships for five months now and they called for me to think of my own health. I'm just in a lot of shock/denial and cannot understand why someone would take pleasure in lying and destroying peoples lives.
 
BrianHorlicks

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Good luck on your journey,
Things can and will get better,
Beĺieve in yourself,
And stay in the light.
 
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