Where in the world to go...

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joewest1802

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I need advice, badly. I dont even know where to begin, literally. I can't settle anywhere I go in the world. I've tried moving to a fair few places, and it just hasn't worked. It's the same tale every time, I encounter almost nothing but unfriendliness and ignorance. I've wound up back in the UK and am once again desperate to get away from it, I find life completely vacant and pointless here.

The problem is, I've totally ran out of places to go in the world. Honestly, I spend my nights scouring Google earth like a Martian, in search of where to land next, and I draw a blank every time. The only places I even vaguely think might be good for me, I don't meet the visa requirements for. I've even considered moving to them illegally and working but it's probably a bad idea. The USA - They basically don't let people emigrate there unless they are highly skilled etc. Canada - I'm two years above the working holiday visa requirement of being 30 years old or younger. China - it's a legal requirement to have a degree to get the J1 visa, which I don't have. Melbourne - I've heard great things about it but my fear of spiders would make me a bag of nerves in Australia.

I know there are so many places in this world where happiness can be found, but I'm just at a loss of ideas, not to mention inspiration. I'm 32, British, Caucasian, male. I've worked at sea, lived in party destinations such as Ibiza, lived in Dublin, plus other places briefly. I've thought about teaching English in Asia, but I'd want it to be in a big city. I crave involvement and social success, wherever I end up going. I'm sure I'll be advised to try and make life good without having to relocate, but believe me I've tried everything I can to integrate and occupy myself in general.

I probably sound like I'm not a nice person, considering I've never really been accepted anywhere, but honestly, that's not the case, I believe I have so much potential, but have just been remarkably unlucky in the people I've met so far. I'm just running out of time, isolation is getting the better of me. I don't even know wether to post this on a travel forum or a mental health forum....
 
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Hi and welcome to the forum.

Do you have a problem with the sense of belonging? Or you just don’t feel stable wherever you go?

This is what I’ve been feeling for a long time. It’s due to moving from place to place since I was young.

Have you thought about moving to Dubai? It’s a very nice place with lots of foreigners so you aren’t going to feel an outsider. The social life is very involving there. You won’t feel bored.

I am the opposite of you. I am trying to find the farthest place from any big city. My dream is to live in the wilderness with no worries about dealing with laws and regulations or the brutality of some people.
 
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Hi and welcome to the forum.

I am the opposite of you. I am trying to find the farthest place from any big city. My dream is to live in the wilderness with no worries about dealing with laws and regulations or the brutality of some people.
I love this idea, but i feel that given my past i dont have the confidence to do it, even though it seems faily simple? all the best to you
 
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To OP,

I am sorry to hear you feel that way, that these places havent accepted you or worked out, but i would offer that before you consider another location you consider a bit deeper why you need to go away and maybe what you are seeking. I have been in a similar position regards to jobs, but in the end i had to look inside myself a bit more
 
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I did a TEFL course, taught English in South Korea in 2001, that could be something you could do if you don't have a job now, I wouldn't recommend giving up a job to do that though.
 
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I did a TEFL course, taught English in South Korea in 2001, that could be something you could do if you don't have a job now, I wouldn't recommend giving up a job to do that though.
did you enjoy it? i hear people have mixed experiences
 
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I would say Sweden might work for you they have all our social skills and they know sorrow. so do not hesitate to consider Sweden Hugs
 
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joewest1802

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I get the whole 'better yourself from the inside' idea, but it's impossible to do that where I currently am, I'm just completely isolated, despite my best efforts, believe me I've tried everything. I have to get to a place which is at least a bit better than this in terms of social opportunity, for the sake of my sanity if nothing else. Then work on the bigger picture. Trouble is, I just don't know where to go, I can't stand all these restrictions on travel just because I'm 32 and not 30, it makes me so angry...