
Catharsis
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I've been cutting myself off from certain friends for several months because I feel continuing these friendships may be doing me more harm than good.
These friends include:
-My best friend
-Someone I have known since school
-A friend I met through the above friend
-A couple of friends who come as a set [siblings]
These are pretty much my only friends outside of a couple of mates I live with and even though the friends I mentioned have taken advantage of me [and fair enough, I guess I've kind of let them], I still partly miss them. I guess this is my downfall though, since I am a sentimental fool who attaches signifinant value and importance to what others may disregard.
More detail is called for...
Best friend - I've known him for over 18 years. I could list all his faults which are many but that would be too tedious a read. The jist of it is that over the years we've had no shortage of arguments and periods where we haven't spoken. The last time we didn't speak ended in him stealing from me, which I would have never done to him. We are now speaking again but him stealing from me was not the first time he had betrayed my trust in a big way. I'm wondering if I am being foolish by continuing this friendship as I just don't feel I can trust him anymore. He stole from me, that's crossing a line. He gave back what he took once we were back in touch but there are so many times I've held back when he'd sent me malicious emails or texts during our arguments. Plus if he knew I was on medication [just recently trying meds for the first time], he'd likely be a condescending dick about it instead of supportive. He doesn't get that there's a scientific element to it.
I haven't been in touch because he only texted me to bleed me for info on things that would benefit him. All this despite the fact that I was having a tough time - a real friend wouldn't put themself before you. I just told him not to text because I couldn't handle interaction of any kind with anyone [a half truth]. I have considered just being direct about this so I can move past it.
This'll become a book if I talk about all the people here right away. Can someone please give me their point of view or maybe ask anything they wanna know? I'd like some opinions so I can weigh up different choices before making my mind up. Hoping to move this on and talk about the other people I mentioned as well.
Thank you!
These friends include:
-My best friend
-Someone I have known since school
-A friend I met through the above friend
-A couple of friends who come as a set [siblings]
These are pretty much my only friends outside of a couple of mates I live with and even though the friends I mentioned have taken advantage of me [and fair enough, I guess I've kind of let them], I still partly miss them. I guess this is my downfall though, since I am a sentimental fool who attaches signifinant value and importance to what others may disregard.
More detail is called for...
Best friend - I've known him for over 18 years. I could list all his faults which are many but that would be too tedious a read. The jist of it is that over the years we've had no shortage of arguments and periods where we haven't spoken. The last time we didn't speak ended in him stealing from me, which I would have never done to him. We are now speaking again but him stealing from me was not the first time he had betrayed my trust in a big way. I'm wondering if I am being foolish by continuing this friendship as I just don't feel I can trust him anymore. He stole from me, that's crossing a line. He gave back what he took once we were back in touch but there are so many times I've held back when he'd sent me malicious emails or texts during our arguments. Plus if he knew I was on medication [just recently trying meds for the first time], he'd likely be a condescending dick about it instead of supportive. He doesn't get that there's a scientific element to it.
I haven't been in touch because he only texted me to bleed me for info on things that would benefit him. All this despite the fact that I was having a tough time - a real friend wouldn't put themself before you. I just told him not to text because I couldn't handle interaction of any kind with anyone [a half truth]. I have considered just being direct about this so I can move past it.
This'll become a book if I talk about all the people here right away. Can someone please give me their point of view or maybe ask anything they wanna know? I'd like some opinions so I can weigh up different choices before making my mind up. Hoping to move this on and talk about the other people I mentioned as well.
Thank you!