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how do you tend to respond?

I usually respond with, oh, you mnow how it is, or what do you think?

I've learned (at least in my experience) people don't really care. it's asked more out of politeness not because people are concerned

what about you?
 
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If its somebody i dont really know ( which is everybody) usually just say " im ok , just little tired" most people except that because you're exactly right its more out of politeness than a genuine interest or concern to help and if you came back with heavy truth they would just state blank with mouth open.

But i do appreciate that people at least notice as opposed to just being invisible.
 
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I usually respond in the same way if it's not one of my close friends. I just say "its whatever" or "I'll be fine". I agree that some people really couldn't care less, they just do it to feel better about themselves and to be able to say "at least I asked". That feeling that no one care sucks and I know exactly how you feel. Sometimes we gotta be our own support system and I think you already have taken steps in the right direction by coming on here and expressing how you feel.

If you are feeling low and need to talk I know i'm a stranger but sometimes (for me) those are the best people to talk to. You can always message me and I will listen wholeheartedly and try to support you as best I can. You're not alone in the way you feel!

:hug5:
 
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how do you tend to respond?

I usually respond with, oh, you mnow how it is, or what do you think?

I've learned (at least in my experience) people don't really care. it's asked more out of politeness not because people are concerned

what about you?
i just say im not well, not feeling the best of late
 
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I usually respond in the same way if it's not one of my close friends. I just say "its whatever" or "I'll be fine". I agree that some people really couldn't care less, they just do it to feel better about themselves and to be able to say "at least I asked". That feeling that no one care sucks and I know exactly how you feel. Sometimes we gotta be our own support system and I think you already have taken steps in the right direction by coming on here and expressing how you feel.

If you are feeling low and need to talk I know i'm a stranger but sometimes (for me) those are the best people to talk to. You can always message me and I will listen wholeheartedly and try to support you as best I can. You're not alone in the way you feel!

:hug5:

thank you for your response

will bear that in mind

and same to you also. I am here
 
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I am so sick of that disingenuous question from people that I started telling them the truth. I say not good, or shitty or bad. People ask that question like its the equivalent of saying hello but its not. They ask it because they think its the same but they really dont care how you are. I tell them the truth of how I feel in that moment now.
 
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I say "oh, I'm ok." no matter how I'm feeling.

If I'm feeling badly I've learned from the past that people don't want to know. People want positive not negative. So, I keep it to myself if I'm not feeling good.
 
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how do you tend to respond?

I usually respond with, oh, you mnow how it is, or what do you think?

I've learned (at least in my experience) people don't really care. it's asked more out of politeness not because people are concerned

what about you?
Sometimes i blurt out "good", then i say i'm going thro divorce and having a hard time. People are sympathetic. I tell this story to complete strangers in the store when they ask me how i am. They really seem to care and it helps me.
 
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your right no one gives a craps, they just say it like saying hello, no one wants the truth if it is offensive or negative.
 
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I feel good when I drink, but don't do that very often. then I laugh, dance and become sociable
 
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I always had this feeling that I could be a good serial killer, I am just afraid of getting caught so thank God, right. Besides I would never want to do anyone harm just in my head is all.
 
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I tend to respond that I'm fine, even if i'm falling apart on the inside.
 
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