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When you tell your therapist you want to die and the let you go home

Justafriend95

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I selfharmed pretty bad.. thanks health center for taking care of your patients
 
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Want to hurt myself pretty bad again.. 😶
Fuck my life, I can't do this..
 
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Shmellshmell27

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Wow it's a different story for me, if I say that I'd be medicated or thrown in hospital, that's really reckless, I find finding the right doctors or what not helps because some of them really have no idea
 
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To be explained to that there isn't anything they can do due to admitting rules is one thing, but to be called a time waster is a whole other thing. It should never happen, nobody should say that to anyone, never mind a nurse to a depressed person in a hospital.
 
white_nightshade

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you are NOT a time waster. "and the love of many will grow cold." end of days prophecy playin out right there. reality is the people running the system are needing the help at this point too. everyones struggling. when people struggle you see the best and worst in people. some shine like candles in dark places. others snuff out and become selfish. at the end of the day we are all responsible for our actions.

the thing that keeps me going is the knowllage that those I care about the most...the pain doesn't leave earth. it just gets passed onto them. they get to carry it for the rest of thier lives. and I refuse to allow that. better me then them!

It's hard to see the forest throguh the trees. people do care about you. everyone has someone in thier lives that will suffer at thier funeral. you are no exception. all you can do is put your head down and push forward. hope for a future. and don't linger on the past.
 
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besides....who knows whats around the bend? every amazing story has struggles. that's what makes the difference between a good book and a great one! live, if nothnig else, for the next bend..because it might be the turning point you're waiting for..
 
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I’m so sorry they dismissed you like that. And all of the other people who have replied with negative experiences. It’s not fucking good enough, they are failing us. I rang my crisis team and I was spoke to like an idiot. I was in a pit yesterday, I have never felt that low and I kept hanging up and redialling because I felt scared. When I got through she was so dismissive and I got overwhelmed, said “it doesn’t matter” and hung up. They didn’t even ring back. Nothing. I could be dead and no one cares. Absolute disgrace this whole system I am beyond angry and I feel so sad for everyone I just wish I could change things :(

so I guess I’ll take my tablets, wait 7 months for therapy in a new area when I’ve already waited 5 years, even been told I’m too much twice! When will things change I wonder :(
 
Justafriend95

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They all think it's for attention. If that was all I wanted I painted my head like a clown and got the attention.. like wtf do they want you to do..
 
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Have you ever felt this way before Justafriend95?

I mean do you have episodes when you feel worse and then get better?

Or do you always feel this way?

Has something happened in your life that has made things feel more painful/difficult?

People do care. It can be difficult to find the right people in healthcare who have a heart and care. Some are over worked. Some are just horrible. Some are just not very good at their jobs.
 
Justafriend95

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Have you ever felt this way before Justafriend95?

I mean do you have episodes when you feel worse and then get better?

Or do you always feel this way?

Has something happened in your life that has made things feel more painful/difficult?

People do care. It can be difficult to find the right people in healthcare who have a heart and care. Some are over worked. Some are just horrible. Some are just not very good at their jobs.
Yeah I switch sometimes but not always..
IDK what happend to feel this way. Nothing really happened I guess..

I feel a lot like this.. idk why
 
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I have been around the MH system long enough to know the ins and outs. If they committed everyone who ever had or shared thoughts of wanting to die, most people would be committed because most people have had them at one time or another.

Such thoughts should never be ignored or taken lightly but the truth is, you will only get committed if you indicate you have plans to carry out an act or they reasonably believe you will do so. If so then they are legally required to have you detained for care and observation so you don't harm yourself. But sharing a thought about wanting to die or saying you have had such thoughts is not going to get you committed in and of itself. They will inquire more to see the degree of the situation and if you are in imminent danger. For most people, they are just going to be general thoughts not specific plans.
Also not everyone who makes a statement they are going to take there own life has a mental disorder.
 
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I’m so sorry they dismissed you like that. And all of the other people who have replied with negative experiences. It’s not fucking good enough, they are failing us. I rang my crisis team and I was spoke to like an idiot. I was in a pit yesterday, I have never felt that low and I kept hanging up and redialling because I felt scared. When I got through she was so dismissive and I got overwhelmed, said “it doesn’t matter” and hung up. They didn’t even ring back. Nothing. I could be dead and no one cares. Absolute disgrace this whole system I am beyond angry and I feel so sad for everyone I just wish I could change things :(

so I guess I’ll take my tablets, wait 7 months for therapy in a new area when I’ve already waited 5 years, even been told I’m too much twice! When will things change I wonder :(
Do you call the Samaritans and Breathing Space also to talk things through when you are feeling scared? That I sometimes find helpful.
 
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