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when to tell someone you are dating you have schizophrenia

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Any advice on this? Any experiences. Anyone married of with anyone who has this problem and still able to love them and stay with them?
 
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I have a friend with a boyfriend who has no idea she hears voices, not sure how long they've been together but I assume it's been a few years at the least. At least when she's with him she can pretend the voices don't exist and can have some sort of 'normal' life with him.

She also keeps it a secret from work and I don't blame her, other colleagues who have come forward with issues have been treated badly.

I was trying to meet women not all that long ago, I was upfront about it and found there's still a lot of stigma surrounding people who hear voices, everyone's mind immediately jumps to schizophrenia even though my official diagnosis is psychosis and thanks to the meds I've had no further episodes since 2016 although I still hear this voice in my head and have done consistently for the past 5+ years. So needless to say (but I'll say it any way) I was unsuccessful in dating anyone who had never had any kind of experience with mental health.

I am happy to say I met a woman who is bipolar with a history of psychosis who I've now been in a relationship with since the 4th of August and she has no problem with the fact I hear a voice that isn't my own, she has several friends who also hear voices or have been diagnosed with schizophrenia so she isn't phased by it, she's commented how 'normal' I am when we're together, mostly because I can happily ignore my voice and I'm otherwise quite stable on my meds.

I started a similar thread a while ago When to tell a potential love interest you hear voices? and got mixed answers.
 
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It's amazing to think that anyone can hide it for so long, you'd think a partner would pick up on things like seeming momentarily distracted or what have you. Maybe it pays to be with someone that doesn't pay you much attention! 😁
In fact, that could be an initial dating move, just find out if they notice new hair or clothing etc, if they don't, you're Gold!
 
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I don’t hear voices i get false memories
Ok, I think that may be what I'm dealing with too. I'm new to this. They originally thought I was bipolar but now we are worried my "traumas" may be false memories. I haven't told any of this to my romantic interest/friend yet
 
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I've told multiple woman that i was sexually and romantically interested
but I'm so high level they aren't afraid of me or even think I'm sick.
I just tell I'm take medicine and I got this disease and let them research on their own.
Some women have called me crazy but I've never been the type to wanna hurt others. so they feel pretty safe with me and feel actually better then they would say a normal guy. Thats what I've been told for years. anyways. so yeah.
 
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I was always right up front about my schizophrenia...found the right one and now we are getting married...she's normal...
 
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