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elliottsmith

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I’ve had depression my entire life and i feel like there is definitely something wrong with me, like maybe a personality disorder. I have a hard time connecting with people. I rarely do. When I do thought I find when someone hurts me, even making me suffer through a minor miscommunication or one bad comment I automatically don’t seem to care for them. I’m not easy to be friends with. People put up with me but I don’t put up with anyone. Even if I know they deserve better I can’t seem to make myself care about maintaining a friendship with them. this makes me wonder if i truly care for people. I don’t know if I truly love anyone because I automatically feel completely disconnected to people when they hurt me.
 
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Hi Elliottsmith,

Have you been badly hurt in the past? It sounds like a self defence mechanism...
 
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Hi Elliottsmith,

Have you been badly hurt in the past? It sounds like a self defence mechanism...
yeah i had an emotionally distant mother/ conditional love situation. Also had a bad relationship but i know that’s not to blame. I did the same thing with her... she hurt me once and I shut down.
 
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I’ve had depression my entire life and i feel like there is definitely something wrong with me, like maybe a personality disorder. I have a hard time connecting with people. I rarely do. When I do thought I find when someone hurts me, even making me suffer through a minor miscommunication or one bad comment I automatically don’t seem to care for them. I’m not easy to be friends with. People put up with me but I don’t put up with anyone. Even if I know they deserve better I can’t seem to make myself care about maintaining a friendship with them. this makes me wonder if i truly care for people. I don’t know if I truly love anyone because I automatically feel completely disconnected to people when they hurt me.
Wow I struggle to talk about how I feel but everything you say I can relate to every word, I wiped people out of my life instantly if they hurt me whether it's a comment or actions even if they don't mean it they are gone out of my life even family anyone, I feel your every word, sorry not to offer advice but I feel you every bit x
 
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