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when somebody is going to leave you?

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Worriedyin

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im scared hermit is going to get tired of my outburst :low:
I don't have BPD but I'm always afraid my boyfriend will get bored of me or find me too much etc etc etc but I try not to think about it and tell myself off for worrying. I think it's a pretty common worry.

It seems like you have an amazing loving relationship from how it comes across on here, I hope you're able to enjoy the falling in love stage because that's the best bit.
 
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Mind you, you might have to hold it somewhere international so the ozzies and americans can come, just make sure it's a country where they will let me in with my drug convictions, roflmao. :D.
 
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Oh and make sure it's not somewhere where me and @Ramson mash don't get busted if we sneak out back for a spliff. Holland or one of the Nordic countries would be nice! :D. ;).
 
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@mischief would be best man since he brought us all together, @Lunar Lady would be in charge of the hen do and I'd be in charge of the stag night (on second thoughts thats a bad idea we'd all probably end up in jail and miss the wedding and @Fairy Lucretia would never forgive me!) :D. ;). You could have a Pagan wedding and @calypso would be priestess!

There planned your lives for the next few years now @Fairy Lucretia stop fretting and live happily ever after with your man! Sorted! My work here is done! :D.

Now to save the planet from impending climate apocalypse and get enlightened in the process. No Problem. :D. ;).
 
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@Fairy Lucretia, Its not uncommon with Borderlines at least it was with my relationships. @Urban Hermit is smart and caring enough to know it's just your condition and you don't mean it. :)
 
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If I had a quid for the number of times she dumped me by text when I was asleep and didn't wake up to answer my phone at 3 in the morning I'd certainly have enough for a spanking gaming computer and that relationship was only for a few months! :).
 
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I did the same thing with my (soon to be ex) wife. When we met I think I broke up with her 4-5 times within the first couple of months.

I was crazy about her but was so scares - and I didn’t know I had BPD.

here’s my advice - if you’re scared about your SO leaving you, why don’t you try talking to him/her? Tell him/her how you’re feeling?
 
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im scared hermit is going to get tired of my outburst :low:
Hi Fairy,
It took me 21 years to realise that my hubby wasn't going to leave me and that he did actually love me, it's not easy, but keep in there, Hermit knows what you are, what you have and will be there.
My husband had many reasons to leave me in the early years, but every time I tried to leave, he held on tighter until I now know he's there and always will be.
We've been married 28 years and together 30 year.
I get you.
Be happy, you have every right to be
XXX
 
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