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What's the point in being social?

Tawny

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I only know, as in remember stories, of 4 members. It takes a while.
 
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You really get a variety of opinions and perspectives on these forums. And you know a lot of people here are struggling a lot of the time, just looking for some sort of response or support. A lot of stuff we say on here, we can't easily say to anybody in our lives. Family often doesn't want to hear this stuff.
 
Zaz

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You really get a variety of opinions and perspectives on these forums. And you know a lot of people here are struggling a lot of the time, just looking for some sort of response or support. A lot of stuff we say on here, we can't easily say to anybody in our lives. Family often doesn't want to hear this stuff.
I know lots of people are struggling and I feel for them too. Sometimes I get so wrapped up in my own problems I forget how others feel.
I totally relate to the family bit too. My father won't even acknowledge there is anything wrong with me even though I've been in hospital and have seen psychiatrists take medication etc. Hopefully I will settle in here and relax a bit more and be able to open up with people 🙂
 
ht46

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I know the feeling of resentment when you feel hard done by socially I live by this quote by Nietzsche "no one such the liar as the indignant man" I think that's right, it's rough but I find myself to take things personally less. Unless some one outright insults you or you're family etc I find it's best to let it go. I' don't socialise much either I have one friend I see and personally if you can find how to enjoy solitude you'll have a much more enjoyable time.
 
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Another quote that helps me when I feel like wanting to be social, "the less I needed the better I felt" Charles Bukowski. I find after a lot of social interactions I'm left with a feeling of regret so I avoid being social I think socialising should go smoothly that's why I only chat to one friend pretty much that I get a long with and there's no regret.
 
Prince of Cinders

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You're right it is difficult. I do feel like people all know each other and I'm like an outsider looking in. Maybe I'm looking for too much and as is my way....looking for negatives rather than positives. I need to calm down.

I basically feel the same as you. Still feel like an intruder, or that I don't belong. Likely both are true, but who knows. Guess it's better than not having anyone to talk to at all, for the moment.
 
Zaz

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Another quote that helps me when I feel like wanting to be social, "the less I needed the better I felt" Charles Bukowski. I find after a lot of social interactions I'm left with a feeling of regret so I avoid being social I think socialising should go smoothly that's why I only chat to one friend pretty much that I get a long with and there's no regret.
I do try to embrace being alone and I certainly deal with it a lot better than I did say 10 years ago. I still have occasional blips where I miss having people around me I can talk to. I try to remind myself that there's a difference between being alone and being lonely 🙂
 
Zaz

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I basically feel the same as you. Still feel like an intruder, or that I don't belong. Likely both are true, but who knows. Guess it's better than not having anyone to talk to at all, for the moment.
You're right at least you can come here and read stories from people with similar issues and that's kind of comforting to me 🙂
 
Delilah67

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I stumbled across this site recently and thought I'd give it a go. I don't usually do the internet but I was at a very low ebb and struggling with very little help from my GP or key worker and my invisible psychiatrist. So I guess I was looking for some kind of human interaction which is difficult in a world where you have to wear a mask and avoid contact with people. Where we're told that staying apart is bringing us closer together...
So I thought oooh a mental health forum with like minded people and stories of understanding and coping from people who know what it's like to feel depressed, alone, isolated, different, not accepted in the world...
And yet here I am now feeling more alone, more isolated and even further from feeling like i belong in this world.
The older i get the more confused i become and the less i seem to know or understand.
I guess I'll just self isolate and shield and socially distance myself away in my empty bubble until Bill Gates decides I can have a life again...View attachment 38586
I’m really sad you feel alone here 😢 I’m pretty new myself and I presumed you were an old regular.!
I like seeing the familiar names pop up , it’s great I feel validated here. when I’m feeling good I love to reply to people to let them know they are important ... Zaz YOU are important, I have no idea how long people have been on here ... and does it matter? As long as someone hears us ?
oh hell, I’m waffling ... sorry .
Big hugs xxxx
 
Zaz

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I’m really sad you feel alone here 😢 I’m pretty new myself and I presumed you were an old regular.!
I like seeing the familiar names pop up , it’s great I feel validated here. when I’m feeling good I love to reply to people to let them know they are important ... Zaz YOU are important, I have no idea how long people have been on here ... and does it matter? As long as someone hears us ?
oh hell, I’m waffling ... sorry .
Big hugs xxxx
Thank you for that. That was so lovely to read and cheered me up. I'm one of those voices that never gets heard so it's really nice to read words of encouragement from people on here. They are much appreciated.
Thanks for the kind words Delilah and for the waffling too 🙂🙂🙂:hug1:
 
Delilah67

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Thank you for that. That was so lovely to read and cheered me up. I'm one of those voices that never gets heard so it's really nice to read words of encouragement from people on here. They are much appreciated.
Thanks for the kind words Delilah and for the waffling too 🙂🙂🙂:hug1:
I’m so glad someone likes my waffling 😘
 
Zaz

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When I see your name I feel the Tom Jones rising in me and have the urge to sing Delilah.... but so far I've controlled myself 🙂
 
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