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What should I do with my family.

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Hey, hope you all doing okay.
So, during my childhood (mostly from 12yo to 16-17yo), I had a lot of problems with my environement (basically, I'm a white guy who lived in a village with mostly black/brown people, i had a different mindset plus i had long hair, so i was seen as a stranger-woman). At 16yo, i moved to my Aunt's, having the idea that it's heaven there, but i really, really, regret this transfert, I don't know why, but i lost all the excitement i had since the first day.
One of the big reasons that makes me hates this decision is the treatment of my Aunt's and her husband. Even if I am 18yo now, they wanna basically control me and change completely my personallity and my mindset (which they see as a complexed personnality or something like that). Since the first day, i keep getting morals and life lessons about how i should do/deal with people (lets take just an example. Because of the sufference i had during my childhood, i developed a no-caring personnality, so i don't care what people says about me, and also, i'm that kind of person who don't talk too much, I prefer listening. So I remember we went to a marriage, i talked a little with my familly and stuff, but when i came back to home, my Aunt came to me and told me that people told her that i'm a prententious + complex man, so i told her just let them because people will talk whatever you do, and here, she just explosed in my face, screaming that i must care about their opinions and compare myself to them (lower myself lol), I remember that i just kept looking at her without saying a word (I was full of words, my soul was heavy at that time, i had all the sufference and stuff during my childhood, in my head, i wanted to get everything out of me in her, but I did none of that, I don't know why, but in this kind of situations, i have difficults to express myself.

I remember that my father came that week-end to visit me, everything was going okay, tomorrow before he leaves, we went to a coffee shop. He told me that my Aunt cried yesterday because i somehow injured her fellings,(and yes,another time, i didn't know how to explain to my father the thing, i just told him that i don't know what to say).
My Aunt turned a story in which i thought i was the victim, against me, and i became the devil. Before this issue, i was 80% regreting my decision of coming at my Aunt's, but after that, i was sure 100% that coming back home is the best thing to do.

Second thing that pushes me to hate this transfert is their lifestyle and attitude. My Aunt's husband is the most weird man I've ever seen, I think he's a pedophile or something. When he talks to people, he keep putting his hands in their back or head and stuff like that. I also heard that he bring his students in the back of his shop and tell his workers to not let anyone enter lol (basically this guy is a professor in the university and own some shops). I noticed it when he talks to me, i remember he even told me if i shave my private parts lol, at that moment i just slaped him in the face and told him to go f him self. He didn't say anything because if he do, i will talk too, so he has no choice. He wants also to take the place of my father by force, cmon dude, okay i know i'm in your home and stuff, but keep the realtion of uncle-in law / nephew-in law between us.

What should I do know? I should comeback home where all my brothers, parents, grandfathers are, or stay here with these people. What should I tell to all my family as an excuse to comeback home (knowing that they worn me before this transfert that it's a big decision, but i didn't listen. And also if you have any opinions about my no-caring, talk-less personnality, Am i abusing or something like that ectera. (i hope i'm getting some help and not taking a lot of ur time, thanks everyone).
 
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(i don't know if it the right forum for this kind of issue, if it is, can a staff/admin move it to the right forum?
 
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First of all I think your non caring personality is amazing we all need that kind of personality I think it sounds like you’ve got a good confidence level and your aunty is insecure yes u shouldn’t care what people say or think they sound really rude ! Be ur self and you should deffo go back home where ur happier just tell ur family you prefer living with your parents because you miss them if they get up set tuff cause it’s about your happiness they should be happy for you, use this experience to your advantage it could help make u apppriciate your old home and that’s a good thing , please please make an anonymous report about ur uncle maybe he could get quietly investigated somehow. Cos what he said to u is wierd and don’t seem right nor does the other part of info about him u said having others in a room etc good luck
 
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First of all I think your non caring personality is amazing we all need that kind of personality I think it sounds like you’ve got a good confidence level and your aunty is insecure yes u shouldn’t care what people say or think they sound really rude ! Be ur self and you should deffo go back home where ur happier just tell ur family you prefer living with your parents because you miss them if they get up set tuff cause it’s about your happiness they should be happy for you, use this experience to your advantage it could help make u apppriciate your old home and that’s a good thing , please please make an anonymous report about ur uncle maybe he could get quietly investigated somehow. Cos what he said to u is wierd and don’t seem right nor does the other part of info about him u said having others in a room etc good luck
Thank you, reading this kind of reply makes me better. And for my uncle-in law, I prefer to keep it secret cause if anyone know about this, war will raise up between my family and him, so i don't wanna push it far, i just burn it now and forever.
 
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Thank you, reading this kind of reply makes me better. And for my uncle-in law, I prefer to keep it secret cause if anyone know about this, war will raise up between my family and him, so i don't wanna push it far, i just burn it now and forever.
Great I really hope it all works out and u get to go back home and feel happier
 
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