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what part of your BPD gets causes you the most problems

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i think mine is my temper, sometimes it just happens and i can't control it in the moment, it's not until i've calmed down I realise that i shouldn;t have done it.

And i think my fear of abandonment.
 
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Emotional dysregulation because it is so turbulent and I get extremely fragile in those times, good or bad moods because both end up hurting me in ways. Dissociation doesn't cause that many problems, but the "uplifting" dissociation is the thing that gets me intentionally hurt for things I would never ever want to do.
The worst thing to happen with my fear of abandonment is not allowing myself to properly leave toxic relationships. Having ordinary people leave is nowhere near the worst of it; the worst is when you'd rather be abused than be alone.
And then there's also the general frequently talking to or keeping bad people (that I'm aware they are bad) and pushing away or avoiding good people (that I'm aware they mean well, even if just for a while).
 
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Disturbed sence of identity, distorted self image,
black and white thinking, huge anxieties, dissociation, derealization and intense emotions.
Generally unstable view of myself and surroundings is very tiering. I'm like behind a fog, absent in reality but physically still there, world feels unreal but also stimuli are stronger. And I lack stability, I can't keep up a job or college for longer than half a year even if I try and really want to, for example the huge depression will get me.
 
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My temper, my mood swings, over eating. I just can't cope! I just am fed up. No more ffs no.more. im done
 
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Black and white thinking
No sense of who I am or what I want.
Fear of abandonment
Thinking of suicide to get me through the day.
Holding myself and others to ridiculously high standards.
Lone wolf mode so people can’t abandon me
Impulsivity / boredom
extreme volatility / agression at times

the worst for me other than the emotions is no sense of self / boredom
 
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i can relate to a lot of this. , i stayed in a toxic relationship longer than i should, broke up then got back with him, then he would leave i would do everything to get him back, even though i was miserable with him I couldn't take the abandonment.

I too struggle with keeping things going for long periods of time. lack stability. Become a bit of a loner to either save myself from being hurt or abandoned or just can't deal with people for long. one minute i think they are great, the next they can do something that upsets me then i hate them. black and white thinking.
 
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I think I have two, first being that I still have very over-reactionary responses to some things but am able to regulate it outwardly, but inside it doesn't hurt any less. Second is abandonment, I do well when I have stable people around me but I am often reminded how quickly it could turn to shit and that even though I am better in many ways, if I were abandoned again I would go back to my suicidal spiral almost immediately. Hard to admit it but that's just the truth.
 
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Suicidal thoughts - several times every day
paranoia
impulsivity
black and white thinking
conflicting self image
love/hate relationships
fear of abandonment
mood swings

got to love BPD!
 
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