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MichaelTheFriend
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Hi everyone,
I’ve joined this forum to see if anyone can tell me what is wrong with my friend.
My friend is in his 40s and we’ve been friends for about twenty years.
His behaviour has become more strange in the recent months.
I’ll list a few things that I’ve identified which I find to be rather odd:
He distrusts any authority e.g. the government, the council, bosses, managers, etc. He regards any sort of authority with suspicion and dismisses anything someone who has authority says. He thinks they are lying to people, trying to control people, etc.
He’s really into conspiracy theories and it’s impossible to have any rational argument with him about almost anything these days. Basically, his opinions are right and anything someone says which refutes any of his opinions he just dismisses. He’ll tell me that I’m ignorant about a subject, that I’m brainwashed for believing the media, etc. His mood then changes and he is very defensive. If I don’t see him for a few days then the next time I see him he just goes on rants about different subjects.
He thinks that a woman who works at the same place as he does fancies him and wants to marry him. Despite the fact that she’s married and has three kids. He asked her to go for a drink with him a few years ago and she said “no”, yet he still thinks that they are going to be together one day. Every time I see him, he mentions her and that he’s been thinking about her.
He’s never been able to keep a steady job. He’s either walked out or been sacked. I got him a job in the late 1990s and he walked out because he was asked to wear safety boots (it was a job on a building site). He told me that he doesn’t like it when people tell him what to do. He works part-time at a supermarket at the moment and the only reason he’s lasted so long is because he doesn’t have to bother with anyone.
He doesn’t look after himself and has very poor hygiene. His house smells, he doesn’t have any carpets on any of the floors, etc. He doesn’t even own a sharp knife. He has an old TV from the 1980s, a mattress on his bedroom floor and three chairs in his sitting room. I hate to say it, but most people would regard him as looking like a ‘tramp’. He He wears the same clothes that are way too big for him. When we go out for a drink, I notice that people do look at him. If he sees someone dressed smartly then he thinks that person is a snob and insults him or her. He is always insulting people who are what he considers to be middle class. Despite the fact that he’s never spoken to any of them, he thinks that they think that they are better than everyone else. When we are sitting in a pub, he thinks that people are talking about him and looking at him. It’s complete paranoia and is actually very annoying because when he thinks either of those things then he starts to try and attract attention and embarrasses himself. He seems to always be on edge and never seems to be able to be at ease.
He doesn’t cook any meals and only eats snacks such as crisps and biscuits. He’s underweight and looks very puny. He is a very loud eater and the only time he has a real meal is if my wife makes a Sunday dinner and he comes over to my house. He doesn’t own a cooker. He collects water in bottles and sandwich spread.
He’s always ranting about women only wanting to be with men for money. He’s never had a stable relationship and I don’t think that he’s had a relationship that has lasted more than a few months. He thinks that a woman should not have any male friends if she is his with him. I’ve told him that there are good and bad men and women and that he can’t judge all women because of his bad past experiences. Of course what I tell him just goes straight over his head.
If I didn't arrange to meet up with him a couple of times a week then I don’t think he would leave his house. His family don’t bother with him and he doesn’t have any other friends. He doesn’t have any hobbies and is quite lazy.
You may be thinking, why do I bother with him? Well, I’ve known him so long that these quote clear problems are things I’m used to and in a way I feel sorry for him. My wife can’t stand him and thinks he’s just overall a very negative person.
I have been seeing him less and less because the longer I don’t see him then he must just be thinking about different things 24/7 and I just have to listen to him ranting for a few hours which I am starting to find annoying.
What disorder or disorders do you think my friend suffers from after reading my post?
Thanks everyone.
I’ve joined this forum to see if anyone can tell me what is wrong with my friend.
My friend is in his 40s and we’ve been friends for about twenty years.
His behaviour has become more strange in the recent months.
I’ll list a few things that I’ve identified which I find to be rather odd:
He distrusts any authority e.g. the government, the council, bosses, managers, etc. He regards any sort of authority with suspicion and dismisses anything someone who has authority says. He thinks they are lying to people, trying to control people, etc.
He’s really into conspiracy theories and it’s impossible to have any rational argument with him about almost anything these days. Basically, his opinions are right and anything someone says which refutes any of his opinions he just dismisses. He’ll tell me that I’m ignorant about a subject, that I’m brainwashed for believing the media, etc. His mood then changes and he is very defensive. If I don’t see him for a few days then the next time I see him he just goes on rants about different subjects.
He thinks that a woman who works at the same place as he does fancies him and wants to marry him. Despite the fact that she’s married and has three kids. He asked her to go for a drink with him a few years ago and she said “no”, yet he still thinks that they are going to be together one day. Every time I see him, he mentions her and that he’s been thinking about her.
He’s never been able to keep a steady job. He’s either walked out or been sacked. I got him a job in the late 1990s and he walked out because he was asked to wear safety boots (it was a job on a building site). He told me that he doesn’t like it when people tell him what to do. He works part-time at a supermarket at the moment and the only reason he’s lasted so long is because he doesn’t have to bother with anyone.
He doesn’t look after himself and has very poor hygiene. His house smells, he doesn’t have any carpets on any of the floors, etc. He doesn’t even own a sharp knife. He has an old TV from the 1980s, a mattress on his bedroom floor and three chairs in his sitting room. I hate to say it, but most people would regard him as looking like a ‘tramp’. He He wears the same clothes that are way too big for him. When we go out for a drink, I notice that people do look at him. If he sees someone dressed smartly then he thinks that person is a snob and insults him or her. He is always insulting people who are what he considers to be middle class. Despite the fact that he’s never spoken to any of them, he thinks that they think that they are better than everyone else. When we are sitting in a pub, he thinks that people are talking about him and looking at him. It’s complete paranoia and is actually very annoying because when he thinks either of those things then he starts to try and attract attention and embarrasses himself. He seems to always be on edge and never seems to be able to be at ease.
He doesn’t cook any meals and only eats snacks such as crisps and biscuits. He’s underweight and looks very puny. He is a very loud eater and the only time he has a real meal is if my wife makes a Sunday dinner and he comes over to my house. He doesn’t own a cooker. He collects water in bottles and sandwich spread.
He’s always ranting about women only wanting to be with men for money. He’s never had a stable relationship and I don’t think that he’s had a relationship that has lasted more than a few months. He thinks that a woman should not have any male friends if she is his with him. I’ve told him that there are good and bad men and women and that he can’t judge all women because of his bad past experiences. Of course what I tell him just goes straight over his head.
If I didn't arrange to meet up with him a couple of times a week then I don’t think he would leave his house. His family don’t bother with him and he doesn’t have any other friends. He doesn’t have any hobbies and is quite lazy.
You may be thinking, why do I bother with him? Well, I’ve known him so long that these quote clear problems are things I’m used to and in a way I feel sorry for him. My wife can’t stand him and thinks he’s just overall a very negative person.
I have been seeing him less and less because the longer I don’t see him then he must just be thinking about different things 24/7 and I just have to listen to him ranting for a few hours which I am starting to find annoying.
What disorder or disorders do you think my friend suffers from after reading my post?
Thanks everyone.
). Unfortunately, the complete opposite happened and I’m actually quite angry with him. He came over to mine at a time when my kids were still in the house and in front of my wife and kids his first words were, “Hey Mick, what do you think about 5G?” So straightaway I thought to myself, “Here we go...” I quickly changed the subject to sport. My wife went for a meal with one of her friends and my kids went upstairs. So, I opened up a bottle of whisky and we just had a little talk about what he had been doing over the week and as I thought he just said that he had stayed in his house all day watching TV. I tried to get a little bit personal to see if he could tell me why he believes in conspiracy theories instead of researching the evidence, reading books, watching documentaries, avoiding relying on fallacies (especially the appeal to emotion), why does he distrust any sort of authority, etc. His simple response was “I don’t like anyone to tell me what to do and I don’t trust anyone”. Needless to say, I was speechless, but I expected him to respond something like that anyway. It’s impossible to have a discussion with him about his beliefs in a serious and rational way - he responds sarcastically as a defense mechanism. Anyway, I went to the kitchen for a glass and when I came back I saw him pouring whisky to the top of the whisky glass and then began drinking it! It was as if he were just deliberately being awkward. You see, he thinks he is funny and is always sarcastic, when really his behaviour is just odd and embarrassing.