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What is the puropose of life or living?

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i am new here. never thought i would one day posting to seek answer for such a question.

over past 4 plus years, i have tried close to 20 different types of anti-depressant pills but non seems to work well. I am beginning to sense hopelessness in medication.

over the recent years, i grew tired of the issue that happened around the world everyday and how sinful/corrupted human are (including myself). I dont understand why we choose to behave in this manner, circumstances forced us to sin or we sin because we chose to in order for basic surviving needs, gratification or to live better & grow richer?

i love my parent, friends and my rescued stray dogs. they have been a factor for me to live in past. but recently, i grew very tired. although i still love them, i felt like i am living for sake of others which I dont want to be anymore. i no longer feel any true joy coming from my inner heart from my activities. i lost my focus/memory/energy/drive/interest in all things slowly, item by item over the past 7 months. i felt that i m just shell without much feeling, end is coming soon to me.

i tried each day in search for an answer to justify my existent or at least continue living in the past 2weeks. my psychiatrist told me this morning ordinary people live to work for a living and their love ones, nothing extraordinary or profound. is this the real and sole reason or there are other things which keep them going? i found it hard to accept and comprehend. i am not saying I want or try to be somebody who is great or successful or impact life of others but rather looking at something (simple) meaningful/purposeful/joyful to me which i can justify to continue to live.
 
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I think there's something to be enjoyed about being conscious in itself. It's amazing when you think about it. We're all made up of elements that were forged in exploding stars, and we have a wealth of genetic information in our bodies from billions of years of evolution. We're a really weird mixture of instinct and self-awareness. And we're capable of such amazing thoughts; art, maths, language, quantum physics... Ideas about the universe that we can sort of gleam and extrapolate from what we can understand about the world, but that we can never fully understand because our brains are tiny and fickle. I don't think there's a purpose to life; I think 'purpose' is a human construct and it doesn't mean anything in terms of the way the universe works... but I think life is cool as fuck, and that's often enough for me.

In terms of when I feel very low, I sometimes don't see the point in all the suffering, especially when you feel you're falling away from everything and that you can't enjoy anything. Please try not to think nihilistically while you're depressed; it's a bad combination, that often goes hand-in-hand, but you must try to remember that, at the moment, you're not well, and any thoughts about the purpose of life will naturally be very negative right now, and you should take these thoughts with a pinch of salt.

I hope you can alleviate your depression soon so you don't feel quite so lost and insignificant. Wish you the best.
 
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Hi Niccon and :welcome: to the forums...

The meaning of life, a tricky question! I think there are a range of things that keep people going, your psychiatrists view of "working for a living and their loved ones" is a bit simplistic. Working for a living is often a chore and not something that gives meaning to life. But take my stepfather for instance, he lives for his love of my mother, his artistic work in making illustrations, his joy in his football team Tottenham Hotspur, his spiritual life in following Osho, and a certain sheer English obstinacy.

So I think for many people there are several legs that people stand on for meaning, not just one sole reason which gives them all their energy. Some people may love their dogs and live for that moment in the morning where they take them out for a walk, and also particularly enjoy the food that their excellent wife cooks for them, enjoying that part of the day. You take joy from a range of activities during the day.

But this very much has to do with the engine that is at the heart of you, whether you feel justified in what you do, moral, upright, loved, cherished, energetic, able, respected. All these things energise you, and that energy comes back as enjoyment in the things you cherish. If you no longer feel that energy, maybe it is time to stand up and do something, make for yourself a new place or image where you have some of these things again.

Just my 2cents :) all the best...
 
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Hi niccon, welcome to the forum.

I would like to say the above replies are very good.

However I understand how you feel. From when I was first depressed in my early teens (if not before) I always thought that everyone else must know a secret, that I was unaware of, that made them think life was worthwhile. I just couldn't understand why they like it.

At certain times since I have periods of time when I have been able to feel differently. What I have found is that you need to have passions in life, I don't mean just for a person/partner, I mean things you are interested in and care about passionately, that when you are involved in them it makes your heart sing. Unfortunately when depressed you lose the power to do those things or even to care about them. You say there have been things you cared about doing in the past, and your family, so you will know what I mean.

The depression makes everything pointless, painful and awful. So the first thing is to get help with the depression. I understand about the drugs not working, they haven't helped me either. Have you tried therapy? There are lots of different types so it is possible that one or another may help. You need to research them and find one,that appeals to you. Other than that, it is just to keep trying a little bit at the things you used to like, expose yourself a little bit to,people and activities slowly in the hope of getting better.

I feel for you. I am very depressed at the moment and also struggle with the point of staying alive. Every now and then there is a slight glimmer of hope and I try to cling to that.

Wishing you well, and hope the,forum is helpful. Sarah
 
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Welcome to the forum. :hi:
 
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This may or may not "fit" but I found meaning in life and what our purpose is in Eastern religion(s). You could start with books on that subject and work your way up to living teachers of the subject. Gave me a different world view.
 
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i am new here. never thought i would one day posting to seek answer for such a question.

over past 4 plus years, i have tried close to 20 different types of anti-depressant pills but non seems to work well. I am beginning to sense hopelessness in medication.

over the recent years, i grew tired of the issue that happened around the world everyday and how sinful/corrupted human are (including myself). I dont understand why we choose to behave in this manner, circumstances forced us to sin or we sin because we chose to in order for basic surviving needs, gratification or to live better & grow richer?

i love my parent, friends and my rescued stray dogs. they have been a factor for me to live in past. but recently, i grew very tired. although i still love them, i felt like i am living for sake of others which I dont want to be anymore. i no longer feel any true joy coming from my inner heart from my activities. i lost my focus/memory/energy/drive/interest in all things slowly, item by item over the past 7 months. i felt that i m just shell without much feeling, end is coming soon to me.

i tried each day in search for an answer to justify my existent or at least continue living in the past 2weeks. my psychiatrist told me this morning ordinary people live to work for a living and their love ones, nothing extraordinary or profound. is this the real and sole reason or there are other things which keep them going? i found it hard to accept and comprehend. i am not saying I want or try to be somebody who is great or successful or impact life of others but rather looking at something (simple) meaningful/purposeful/joyful to me which i can justify to continue to live.
Finding the "Meaning of life" and finding "Meaning in life" are two very different approaches, they are both subjective, but the latter is attainable.


Sorry I ate a philosophy paper back this morning, going back to watching family guy :meanie:
 
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thank you for your responses and encouragement.

like sarah, i am struggling to stay alive. in the past when there is a slight glimmer of hope, i try to cling on to that but i find that i am slowly losing this will to do so now.

my condition has gone so bad that it affected my nerve, went thru a few specialist before they pinned point the cause. i suffered from limbs numbness, joints stiffness and muscle weakening whenever i stopped my anti-depressant medication after about 2 months.

basically, the medicine now only solved my nerve issue not my mood. now i am only looking for an answer to justify this dry living. i am scheduling for another counseling session, hopefully it can bring light to me.

thanks again and take care to all.
 
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Hi niccon

I hope you can find some help and some hope in life.

I have found this forum a great help, knowing there are people who understand what I go through.

Sarah x
 
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It's a test. Life is one big test. I'm rocking a soild D- hoping to bring my grade up;)
 
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