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What is BPD? A brief explanation:

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I have BPD and when I was initially diagnosed I was prescribed Quetiapine! I’ve heard that this drug does nothing for BPD. Why did the psychiatrist put me on this drug, if this drug is not really for BPD? Could anyone tell me. I’m not on quetiapine any more because I became pre diabetic on it. So I’m quite angry about the whole ordeal. Thank you in advance.
 
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Hi I’m new so not sure who i can ask, but is it ok to reply here if a mental health “professional” falsely labelled me with EUPD?
Hi and welcome to the forum
I would suggest that you start your own thread In the BPD section and put in the reasons why you think your wrongly diagnose. I think you’ll get more replies that way
 
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Borderline Personality Disorder is one of ten personality disorders recognised by the DSM IV.

A personality disorder is a type of mental illness and to be diagnosed particular criteria must be met. With personality disorders, the symptoms have usually been present for a long time. These symptoms have an overall negative affect on the sufferer’s life.

One of the core signs and symptoms in BPD is the proneness to impulsive behaviour. This impulsiveness can manifest itself in negative ways. For example, self-harm is common among individuals with BPD and in many instances, this is an impulsive act. Sufferers of BPD can also be prone to angry outbursts and possibly criminal offences (mainly in male sufferers) as a result of impulsive urges.

Another common feature of BPD is affective lability. This means that sufferers have trouble stabilising moods and as a result, mood changes can become erratic. Other characteristics of this condition include reality distortion, tendency to see things in ‘black and white’ terms, excessive behaviour such as gambling or sexual promiscuity, and proneness to depression.
(To learn more about symptoms and diagnostic criteria please go to the section on diagnostic criteria.)

These traits can sometimes make it very difficult for a person to maintain a relationship with someone with BPD as their behaviour and actions can be difficult to tolerate and hard to understand. It is important for persons close to a BPD sufferer to educate themselves on the condition so they can empathise with what the sufferer is going through and how they are feeling.

BPD is not usually diagnosed before adolescence. It has been suggested that BPD symptoms can sometimes improve as time goes on or even disappear all together. This is not always the case however as BPD can continue to affect sufferers well into later life.

Traits from other mental illnesses and psychological conditions from the DSM IV can often co-exist in BPD patients. These are usually anxiety disorders, eating disorders, obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) and bipolar disorder (also known as manic depression)


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Welcome to BPDWORLD
thanks for the useful info:) I’ve been in therapy for some time and have been formally diagnosed with OCD, but relate so much to BPD. I don’t want to diagnose myself, but I’m unsure as to how to approach this topic with my therapist. For reference, I experience extreme mood swings that interfere with relationships, an intense fear of abandonment, self harm, and black/white thinking. Much of which feels debilitating. I’ve taken online quizzes (all of which suggest a high probability of BPD) but want a formal diagnosis-any suggestions on how to approach the topic with my therapist?
 
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Borderline Personality Disorder is one of ten personality disorders recognised by the DSM IV.

A personality disorder is a type of mental illness and to be diagnosed particular criteria must be met. With personality disorders, the symptoms have usually been present for a long time. These symptoms have an overall negative affect on the sufferer’s life.

One of the core signs and symptoms in BPD is the proneness to impulsive behaviour. This impulsiveness can manifest itself in negative ways. For example, self-harm is common among individuals with BPD and in many instances, this is an impulsive act. Sufferers of BPD can also be prone to angry outbursts and possibly criminal offences (mainly in male sufferers) as a result of impulsive urges.

Another common feature of BPD is affective lability. This means that sufferers have trouble stabilising moods and as a result, mood changes can become erratic. Other characteristics of this condition include reality distortion, tendency to see things in ‘black and white’ terms, excessive behaviour such as gambling or sexual promiscuity, and proneness to depression.
(To learn more about symptoms and diagnostic criteria please go to the section on diagnostic criteria.)

These traits can sometimes make it very difficult for a person to maintain a relationship with someone with BPD as their behaviour and actions can be difficult to tolerate and hard to understand. It is important for persons close to a BPD sufferer to educate themselves on the condition so they can empathise with what the sufferer is going through and how they are feeling.

BPD is not usually diagnosed before adolescence. It has been suggested that BPD symptoms can sometimes improve as time goes on or even disappear all together. This is not always the case however as BPD can continue to affect sufferers well into later life.

Traits from other mental illnesses and psychological conditions from the DSM IV can often co-exist in BPD patients. These are usually anxiety disorders, eating disorders, obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) and bipolar disorder (also known as manic depression)


Further information can be found at:

Welcome to BPDWORLD
Good description. My ex was BPD and that described most of her traits
 
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I was diagnosed with bpd several years ago but I only recently became aware of what it means and I definitely tick all the boxes.. I have impulsive thoughts towards many aspects of life and iv abused substances compulsively aswell as criminal behaviour to support it. My sexuality suffers aswell which has led me to problematic genres. I suppose it's nice to feel there's a reason for my suffering but it doesn't help the cause.
 
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Please help
I can't find the section for the "diagnostic criteria" as suggested in the OP.
 
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thank you so much both of you
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I was diagnosed with recurrent depression many many years ago and ocd I take a mood stabilizer ,antipschotic and anti depressant.
reading on the internet about BPD and aspergers ,I guess I could be either with some of the symptoms I have.
hopefully they will make their minds up soon/cpn and pdoc and I will get the right treatment
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I also have social anxiety and am extremely unstable emotionally and have separation anxiety and cannot be away from my mum ,am not really grown up emotionally either ,so I don't know which I am.
maybe they don't know either!
anyway ,sorry for taking over this thread ,I shall say no more now
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This sounds quite a lot like BPD. I have BPD and my (absent) father has aspergers and you seem to align more with my experience. I think something that is often quite a good indicator of BPD is childhood trauma e.g neglect, emotional abuse, having a depressed or mentally ill primary caregiver etc. I can find it impossible to sleep alone, sometimes only in my mother’s room and often begin to panic (I also have GAD) which I believe correlates with the fear of abandonment. Something interesting I learnt recently is that ADHD (often associated with BPD through impulsivity and recklessness) stems from the same genetic code as autism. Perhaps that may help.
Most importantly, however, get a good psychiatrist and tell them the truth, as much of it as you can remember.
 
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My opinions:

ADHD occurs frequently in people with BPD.

ADHD is the only childhood mental disorder known to be associated with a higher chance of developing adult ADHD.

My perspective is the disorder is a combination of the following individually or both together: (1) Chronic Childhood trauma/stress/instability (2) Complex neurological problems.

My suspicion is there may be subtypes (and some people may be more than one of these): Chronic Childhood (or early life) Trauma/Stress subtype, ADHD subtype, Bipolar Subtype. This is my theory of course, but there seems to be significant overlap with those factors.

Edit: I directly know 5 people diagnosed earlier in life with ADHD, later when they became extremely emotionally out of control the ADHD was forgotten and they were diagnosed BPD. Not one of these "dual diagnosis" people is coping at all well in life, despite about half of them receiving psychiatric supervision.
I guess you know 6 now! Though might tentatively say that Adhd can sometimes be a blessing. Can’t say the same about BPD. Emotionally, I am in turmoil. My physical health is rapidly deteriorating. My work has declined a little, though I have some of the top academic scores in the country.
 
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I was diagnosed in 2002 with BPD and this was poo pooed by my GP however I have been on various levels of Sertraline since 50mg to 200mg. I am going to see if I can have a proper diagnosis of my '\condition' as I don't think the way I function is right . I get fixated on things such as past episodes or an argument with someone and this is slowly destroying my life.

I was in the past promiscuous and have had a huge drink problem and now largly stay away from drink as this has ruined my life.

Do you know if obsessing over things is part of BPD?
People with BPD lack a sense of control over their identity and their lives. This is why OCD often occurs at the same time.
 
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I feel sorry for u lot believing in a bullshit diagnosis and put on bullshit drugs that don't do a thing but make your legs jump continuously
 
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Well, except I'm sitting here reasonably calm and happy, and you've been posting about having anxiety attacks all day.

Which implies they aren't bullshit drugs or diagnosis, because they help me, and others here.

You've just had worse luck with it.
 
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I'll be honest. If I was reasonable and calm i wouldn't be here. I've taken these bullshit drugs none of them work except tranquillisers.
 
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I feel sorry for u lot believing in a bullshit diagnosis and put on bullshit drugs that don't do a thing but make your legs jump continuously
Your lack of success with treatment does not give you an excuse to be bitter and discourage other people from seeking help for their mental health. This forum is here to support people who are committed to recovery, and I feel sorry for you that you can't see the advantage of that.
 
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Well if u believe it you must be well. I'm not well matey .
 
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