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What is BPD? A brief explanation:

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Jenldaley

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I have bpd. I just need someone to talk to right now
 
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Jenldaley

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I would love to chat. I have bpd and everything else u could think if
 
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Losingwhoiam

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Drop me a line if you want
Everybody needs to chat x
 
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Zoleyj1

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Yes.Getting fixated on past traumas or issues is a very common part of bpd.
I have witnessed so many people in DBT that were unable to move forward because of this. I was also told by my DBT therapist that many people with a bpd diagnosis struggle to respond to the therapy because of difficulties moving forward.
 
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Barney24

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I am finding it difficult to get my daughter help with this. When I read this it is my daughter to a tee , we ar under a daughter who referred us for counselling but they said they can not help. They have referred her for ADHD she is 23 a 12 month waiting list. , she is now doing drugs (weed) she can keep a job as she tends to upset people she has built up extreme debt , in the verge of trouble with please. When she is not out she spends time in bed. She finds it hard to tell the truth ever , I need help it is killing me and causing so many family arguments.
 
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I am finding it difficult to get my daughter help with this. When I read this it is my daughter to a tee , we ar under a daughter who referred us for counselling but they said they can not help. They have referred her for ADHD she is 23 a 12 month waiting list. , she is now doing drugs (weed) she can keep a job as she tends to upset people she has built up extreme debt , in the verge of trouble with please. When she is not out she spends time in bed. She finds it hard to tell the truth ever , I need help it is killing me and causing so many family arguments.
You need to do more reading on bpd. It’s often a result of how the child was raised. If you can recognize your own culpability, you may be able to help.
 
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I think finding blame might not be the best way forward - a child's upbringing is definitely a key part to BPD but its not all about parental neglect/poor treatment. It can also be around for example pushing a child to do well at school - if a child is biologically prone to BPD then that sort of encouragement can lead to them obsessing over being perfect and not failing etc. Its very complicated.
If you can google the bio-social for BPD it may shed some light on what caused it but not necessarily what to do next.
A psychotherapist would normally diagnose it so maybe ask your GP for a referral? Explain that you've been reading up on BPD and list the symptoms of it that your daughter is displaying. Could you afford to go private for a one off assessment? Its a tough process.
Good luck x
 
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johnram

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I am finding it difficult to disentangle cPTSD from BPD, i have watched some videos, read articles and looked through postings here. maybe i am asking in the wrong location, but wanted to try anyway. Anyone have any thoughts, or come from cPTSD to realise they have BPD.
 
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thank you, I was super freaked out when I got diagnosed. nice to know that facts. :flower2:
 
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I am finding it difficult to disentangle cPTSD from BPD, i have watched some videos, read articles and looked through postings here. maybe i am asking in the wrong location, but wanted to try anyway. Anyone have any thoughts, or come from cPTSD to realise they have BPD.
I suffer from BPD but also have traits of PTSD. Personally I wouldn’t worry about labelling them too much, they both have similar therapy, although if you have visions or nightmares with PTSD I think the therapy is called EMDR and it’s meant to very good.
 
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ive got both, and in my opinion the two are vastly different.

BPD is like a demon eating away at your soul
PTSD is a painful illness in its own right but you have the chance to cure it or live with it.
BPD you can treat but its with you always. Its a personality disorder so is part of who you are.
 
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Caz

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Hi I have borderline too
I have obsessions with famous people I'm fixated with all things fantasy. It effects me Every day
I detach from reality I struggle to date and get close to normal people as they arnt the idol of my affection . I compare my life to them and just find myself youtubing googling and it's making myself crazy . I might need my meds again of which I just stopped myself a week ago.
 
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Hi I have borderline too
I have obsessions with famous people I'm fixated with all things fantasy. It effects me Every day
I detach from reality I struggle to date and get close to normal people as they arnt the idol of my affection . I compare my life to them and just find myself youtubing googling and it's making myself crazy . I might need my meds again of which I just stopped myself a week ago.
It’s never a good idea to stop meditation without professional advice. Don’t be too hard on yourself with your little traits, they are just coping mechanisms that give you temporary relief from emotional pain when real life is too hard to handle.
 
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