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Stephg22

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Hi all,

Really really need some advice regarding my dad. He is 54 and has been struggling with depression for the last 4/5 years. He goes through periods that are better than others but the 'bad' periods are getting steadily worse.

He is currently taking 200mg of sertraline and has never tried another antidepressant, the doctor just put him on 50mg of that and it steadily went up.

Anyway he has recently had another bad period and yesterday he told me he doesn't enjoy anything at all. He has recently taken 2 days off work, didn't ring his boss to say where he was, parked his car up in a side street and just lay down in his car all day. He also said that he is not suicidal because he'd be too scared to do anything but 'if there was a button he could press that would end it he'd do it' which basically tells me he wants to end it, he's just too scared to.

I told my mum this and she rang the mental health assessment team who rang my dad when he got back from work today and made him an appointment to see someone tonight (not sure exactly who). Anyway we all thought he'd be taken seriously now and basically all they've said is they'll refer him to a psychiatrist which will hopefully be before the end of this year and they'll review his medication then.

I don't understand why he isn't being taken seriously :/ I work in the nhs so I know they're struggling and I know depression isn't an easy thing to treat but I'm getting really worried now. He's on his 2nd warning with his employer so if he goes off sick without telling anyone again he's sacked and I know hell feel a lot worse jobless. Also what if he actually acts on his suicidal thoughts. Does anyone know anyone I can ring about this to get advice or what I can do??
 
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Hi Steph,

It sounds like the docs are taking your dad seriously if he's at maintenance dose of 200mg, how long has he been taking this dose? Sometimes these doses take a while to start working fully.

If your dad's been on that dose for a while it sounds like he urgently needs to see a psychiatrist. If your dad gets worse and you think he is planning ways to commit suicide you should ring the crisis team or police and they will take him seriously.

I hope his appointment went well and they are arranging some kind of care plan.

YBB
 
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He's been on 200mg for at least 6 months, maybe longer. I think he's seen a psychiatrist before but nothing changes from seeing them. I don't think he's planning a way to do it but he's having suicidal thoughts which is a step up from a few months ago :( it just feels like he has to actually make an attempt before they'll do anything :(
 
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Is there anywhere in your area that assesses patients and arranges talk therapy, things like CBT for people suffering depression on the NHS?
 
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He's had CBT twice, I think the problem is when he actually gets round to having CBT or seeing someone he feels okay so he doesn't feel he needs it then :/
 
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