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What gives me the right...

Beergardenweather

Beergardenweather

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... to feel like this?
I have a good job, a nice car, a nice home and a partner who would do anything for me.
There are people everyday finding out they have cancer,losing husbands ,wife's and children, being forced from their homes. The list is endless.
What gives me the right to feel such utter self loathing and pity. It was like I was born without the will to live. I get no enjoyment out of life when most people would do anything to live another day.
I have absolutely no reason or excuse to be the way I am . Why can't I just snap out of it!?
 
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I'd honestly prefer a physical illness over a mental one but that is a personal choice.
 
Beergardenweather

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in a recent Stephen Fry series, I can't remember the exact facts but he was talking to a phisically disabled man who was living life to the full and he said something along the lines of ' there's no such thing as physical disability only mental disability will hold you back'
 
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Don't question it. It just is.

Comparing yourself to everyone else - or even to yourself (the 'I have a nice house / car / job / family' thing) is a bad idea. It'll just make you feel more depressed and guilty.
I was in a relationship, had a job, own house etc..... no 'reason' to be depressed, but I still got depressed.
 
Beergardenweather

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Yeah I guess I do feel guilty about it. I know I can't help it though, if I would I could because I hate the way I am.
I could never talk to a 'normal' about the way I feel, they don't take it so well. But that's why I come in here I suppose :)
 
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Hello, Please don't judge yourself negatively for the what you are experiencing at the moment. Maybe you are looking for an explanation for your difficulties so that you can do something about it? The thing is nobody, not even the experts, really know for 100% certainty what causes an individual to experience depression or other mental health problems. So don't feel guilty that its happening to you...it's not your fault.
 
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I could be wrong, but isn't the depression a bio-chemical thing? "I have absolutely no reason or excuse to be the way I am . Why can't I just snap out of it!?" Because it's a bio-chemical thing. That person down the street who is crippled and poor but has a lovely attitude, that person has better brain chemistry.
 
Nikita

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I think saying what gives you the right to feel the way you do or comparing yourself with someone who has a physical illness is wrong.No one is to blame or can control depression or whether they are mentally ill or well.
Mental illness isn't a choice we make or something we can decide not to have.
I have both physical and mental illness,they are both hard and in many ways the same,I disagree there is no physical illness or mental that that bloke says it is attitude,that is wrong.Mental illness is real and so is physical illness,they are both hard and debilitating,I know cos I have struggled with both for years,it is nothing I did could make it easier.Never did i say I don't deserve or have the right to be ill cos others have it worse.That is totally wrong!Nikitax
 
Beergardenweather

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Thanks guys.
Think I'm just feeling It at the moment after a few snide remarks from colleagues.
 
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