
Wynn
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- Oct 20, 2008
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Daughter (15), really upset the other night. Said that all her dad ever says to her these days is 'Have you done your homework' , and 'Can you go to bed soon, because I'm tired'. It's very true - he comes home late, watches TV or computer and wants to be in bed soon after, doesn't say much else to anyone. He is adamant that he is no longer depressed - I'm not sure if that's right, but don't want to go through that particular battle again. I will take him at his word.
Daughter knows that he has been depressed and understood that the depression caused him to act differently. I could explain that to her. Now though - if he is not depressed - what can I say to her? She misses her old, easygoing, relationship with her dad. He is missing out on developing his relationship with his daughter as she grows into an adult.
I don't think he feels that there is any problem, and would probably get angry at me if I tried to suggest anything was amiss. Daughter is also, I think, wary of upsetting him by mentioning anything. My son (12) sometimes gets very frustrated with him, (teenage years kicking in) and does say how he feels - that usually ends as a big argument between the two of them.
I fear that my partner is missing out on the enjoyment his kids could bring - they are both really good kids, and great fun to be around. And I'm very aware that their relationships with him are taking big knocks at the moment.
Like I said - just wish I knew what to say to them to perhaps lessen the damage a little??

Daughter knows that he has been depressed and understood that the depression caused him to act differently. I could explain that to her. Now though - if he is not depressed - what can I say to her? She misses her old, easygoing, relationship with her dad. He is missing out on developing his relationship with his daughter as she grows into an adult.
I don't think he feels that there is any problem, and would probably get angry at me if I tried to suggest anything was amiss. Daughter is also, I think, wary of upsetting him by mentioning anything. My son (12) sometimes gets very frustrated with him, (teenage years kicking in) and does say how he feels - that usually ends as a big argument between the two of them.
I fear that my partner is missing out on the enjoyment his kids could bring - they are both really good kids, and great fun to be around. And I'm very aware that their relationships with him are taking big knocks at the moment.
Like I said - just wish I knew what to say to them to perhaps lessen the damage a little??

