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SwanLake

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Great idea!

I am not diagnosed with anything but here is my career history in a nutshell.

Disengaged with school and left before the legal age due to untreated MH issues.
Did a variety of entry level manual jobs for many years, could only work for a few months at a time, then breakdown, then back to work 6 months or so later. Not recognising I was ill, continually trying to 'pull myself togther' and beating myself up.

Discovered exposure therapy and later CBT through self help books. Night school followed. MH meant I couldn't keep going on first try, tried again a long time later once I had regrouped. Depression deepened for a long time. Stopped studying after the first set of quals achieved.

During and following counselling / therapy and lots of self help and effort, I changed direction and was able to build a career. Often two steps forward and one step back but I keep plugging away and am now a qualified and experienced professional in a very responsible role.

I'm not suggesting it was easy, the above took place over many years of forward and backward steps. I'm not suggesting it is doable for everyone, I put so much effort into the above but luck is always the key ingredient.

What I am trying to say is that not giving up, keeping on trying, keeping on developing, can give the lie to any label you have been given or give yourself.

Part of MH issues is having your brain lie to you, tell you that you are at fault, that nothing will ever change.

Believe in yourself, you are capable of so much more than you think. Believe in life and other people, this world has the ability to surprise you in the most wonderful ways.

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Wow! I think I am talking myself into giving life another go! :D Thanks Girl Interrupted, feeling better than I have in a long while.
That is a wonderful story and well done you for your strength and tenacity. You should feel very proud of yourself!
Like you, I am very much into self help. I think a major thing in the battle to recover, as well as the above, is INTENT. The intent to get better is very powerful if you can find the strength within you.
 
daffy

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@Coolname , good on you for not giving up. You had many setbacks but overcame each and everyone of them. I know not everyone would be able to do what you did but it just shows not to give up at the first hurdle
 
Poppy2014

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I was a coronary care sister, then a ward manager, I started teaching medical students, did a distance learning Master's degree in Ethics and Law, then a teaching degree. I moved into lecturing a few years ago, and now I'm 3.5 years into a PhD, a senior lecturer, and soon be a published writer and conference speaker.
I'm also 4 years into therapy, working with chronic pain and physical health problems.
But I'm doing what I can now, because its a toss up as to whether physical illness or mental health will stop me first.
 
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Girl interupted

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How about neither stops you and you just keep knocking it out of the park? Xo
 
daffy

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I was a coronary care sister, then a ward manager, I started teaching medical students, did a distance learning Master's degree in Ethics and Law, then a teaching degree. I moved into lecturing a few years ago, and now I'm 3.5 years into a PhD, a senior lecturer, and soon be a published writer and conference speaker.
I'm also 4 years into therapy, working with chronic pain and physical health problems.
But I'm doing what I can now, because its a toss up as to whether physical illness or mental health will stop me first.
Wow you go girl:peace:
 
Mayflower7

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I was a coronary care sister, then a ward manager, I started teaching medical students, did a distance learning Master's degree in Ethics and Law, then a teaching degree. I moved into lecturing a few years ago, and now I'm 3.5 years into a PhD, a senior lecturer, and soon be a published writer and conference speaker.
I'm also 4 years into therapy, working with chronic pain and physical health problems.
But I'm doing what I can now, because its a toss up as to whether physical illness or mental health will stop me first.
Well done Poppy
 
aspieguy1984

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Hi all, I'm the oldest of 7. So right after I graduated from H.S. I started working at a place that made furniture. Then auto body shops, machine shops, transmission shops, worked for the D.o.D. as a heavy equipment mechanic, worked for another company as a heavy equipment mechanic. Worked in a printing plant. Stay at home dad for awhile. Worked at a auto mechanics shop. Worked fast food (in the back as prep work) didn't interact with customers. Worked at a Starbucks roasting plant most recently. MH problems started for me around the fast food job. I managed to deliver newspapers at night on and off for 10ish years. But now I'm in a new location, starting over again. Going to start a business with my dad. I also buy, sell and trade things.
 
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I've had many jobs through the years,30+ actually.I quit every single one of them mostly due to severe anxiety.I didn't know I had undiagnosed PTSD though.

My dream was to become a model when I was 18 but the experience I had at my first job made me never pursue that route again.I have done many different things,and my last job as a cook was the most rewarding.I really enjoyed it and was proud of myself.

I'm tired of the struggle and I'm finally going to apply for disability
 
Poppy2014

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Would love to, but my body says differently, unfortunately i keep breaking, and it will only get worse as i get older, mentally, i have a long term condition (not BPD), that will impact on my cognitive function.
So either my hip/knee or spine will break or memory will go, toss up as to which happens first. But like you said, I'll carry on fighting while ever I can
 
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I wanted so badly to be a journalist but I did not pass enough exams. I am not academic at all. I did a secretarial course and did the whole office work/receptionist thing but I’ve never been able to hold down a job. I end up getting sacked because I make so many mistakes. Now I am Phone Sex Operator/Dominatrix. It suits me well because I am my own boss, I work from home and choose my own hours. I just sign in and work whenever I feel like it. I’m not the main earner though so I’m very lucky. My husband has a really good full time job. I don’t know how I’d survive if I had to completely support myself.
 
Lone_wanderer

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I trained as an Engineer and was a support technician in IT on desktop PCs and Unix based systems in the late eighties, was a drugged up dropout for a while, then an administrator, worked in Virgin records for a bit, was an industrial cleaner then facilities manager, then I went psychotic due to amphetamine. Don't work now as I'm too anxious and paranoid to mix with the public for that long, I'm also to old to become an e-sports star which is the only job I'd fancy these days.
 
Shiroki

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Too many jobs to list, my employment history is not appealing to employers, thankfully I have a career path I want now, and am spending the next 5 years obtaining my degree in bioscience.
 
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@BorderlineRatLady then god did you a service. It's a miserable profession that feeds right into bpd lack of self worth. And as a sadly dying industry it's highly toxic and competitive.

You were spared, trust me.

When I lived in NYC my downstairs neighbour did what you do. I think as long as you have a stable partner, it's a service like any other.

Do what makes you happy.
 
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The whole point of this thread btw, was that you can still do anything you set your mind to. The disorder doesn't control you, you control it.
 
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I am in law enforcement. My therapist will not put my diagnosis on paper. She is afraid that I could lose my job.
 
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