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What causes a man to become a exhibitionist?

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It could be possible that things clashed when you heard about the Kama Sutra. This happened to someone and they were talking about it in a TV documentary, but I can't remember the name.
 
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I don't really think wanting your maid to see you when you're changing clothes is considered being an exhibitionist. Or anything that you need help for it should beat yourself up for.
It is increasing day by day, if today I expose my Something then it makes me feel very addicted to sex all the day, and next day I plan to expose even more, with constant feeling of “you are doing something wrong”.

You're an adult and have never had sex,it seems pretty natural that you would want to be sexual with someone that's around you so often like that.
I agree with that, my mind fantasise about various situations in which I’m doing sex with someone. But what I fear is if without having any sex I am this much monstrous then what will happen if get the taste of real sex? Will my mind make me God’s worst creature in this world?

I’m not attracted to my maid, my sick and devilish mind see her (a God’s natural creature) as an object.

I'm not a doctor
Thanks, that’s great that you’re not a doctor and you want to help me beacuse you have got a humanly heart and mind. Doctors help for money, you’re helping just for the sake of another human.
 
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It could be possible that things clashed when you heard about the Kama Sutra. This happened to someone and they were talking about it in a TV documentary, but I can't remember the name.
I really don’t know what Kama Sutra is, just heard from my friends in 9th Grade (may be the year was 2015) that it is fun to watch Kama Sutra on web at night. But I really never did that.
 
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There's your problem. You should have sex. When men get deprived of sex it can drive them nuts. If you can't get over guilt then it's something you need to talk to a therapist about.
Why others don’t get problems like these? It’s such a shameful problem that I cannot get sympathy for it from anyone, it’s not like John Nash’s Schizophrenia, or Chester Bennington’s depression, it’s the thing that everyone prohibits and god knows how I got into this. Even the porn stars don’t have sex addiction (what a miracle) they have full control when they want and don’t want to do the act. And here is me.
 
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Tony, I really am sorry you are feeling so bad about yourself. It does not sound like you have sex addiction but sex addiction is a recognised condition. I remember hearing about actors having therapy for it. I am sad you are beating yourself up over how you feel.
 
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Hello from India! I'm an atheist and don't believe in the concept of sin. It doesn't sound like you are causing suffering to yourself or your maid, so you may be worrying about nothing. That said, I'd like you to think deeply whether what you say here is accurate:

medicines didn’t destroy me therefore they cannot heal me too.
 
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It sounds like you may have to wait until then. I can understand you do not want your parents to know your reason for seeking therapy.
It’s none of their business . Just like their sex life is none of yours.
 
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It doesn't sound like you are causing suffering to yourself or your maid
Of course it doesn’t sound like that, because he’s not going to include that part of it. He probably doesn’t know how this is affecting the maid or even care. He’s too into himself right now but at least he realizes that this might be impacting his life and those in his life in a negative way
 
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It’s none of their business . Just like their sex life is none of yours.
I meant to say ‘none of his’ not none of yours. I guess it still works. Lol 😂
 
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Hi Tony.
Please don't feel that you are alone in this. A lot of people have guilt when it comes to sexual feelings, especially those from a strong religious background. It doesn't make you a bad person.
My Catholic friend would beat himself up terribly about his feelings when he was younger, and even now feels a certain amount of guilt when he has had sex.
Just remember that as human beings it is normal for us to have sexual thoughts. Sex is a natural, healthy part of life, and none of us would exist without it!
 
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Tony, I really am sorry you are feeling so bad about yourself. It does not sound like you have sex addiction but sex addiction is a recognised condition. I remember hearing about actors having therapy for it. I am sad you are beating yourself up over how you feel.
Thanks for the kind words. Tolstoy said it correctly “Nothing heals better than love and care in times of sorrow”.
 
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Hello from India! I'm an atheist and don't believe in the concept of sin. It doesn't sound like you are causing suffering to yourself or your maid, so you may be worrying about nothing. That said, I'd like you to think deeply whether what you say here is accurate:
What medicines would do in this case? All it can do is to control the secretion of “sad feeling” hormones and try to inhibit the secretion of “serotonin” and “dopamine”.

Fortunately, porn is almost banned in India but people have started to talk on sex very openly.
 
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I think I worded it wrong if it sounded like that. I apologise.
And I hope my comments didn’t sound too harsh. When I was younger I had some strange sexual fetishes and behaviours.
I’m really glad I didn’t have the added stress and pressure of religion to consider as well.
 
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Why others don’t get problems like these? It’s such a shameful problem that I cannot get sympathy for it from anyone, it’s not like John Nash’s Schizophrenia, or Chester Bennington’s depression, it’s the thing that everyone prohibits and god knows how I got into this. Even the porn stars don’t have sex addiction (what a miracle) they have full control when they want and don’t want to do the act. And here is me.
LOTS of men get problems like yours. Or even worse - much worse. We have stories here is the US of incels who go on killing rampages. Incel means involuntary celibate. If you have that many problems with sex and have trouble getting a partner you could considered drugs to lower your libido.
 
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