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What are you thinking about right now? (mental health related)

SomersetScorpio

SomersetScorpio

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Coercive control and domestic violence. It is the worst kind because it leaves no bruises. But, could lead to a dangerous situation. I would like me and my child to find a way out of this.
I'm sorry you're in such a horrid situation. :hug1:
If your in the uk there are refuges that you can go to. They may not be the nicest of places but at least you’d be safe.
I've spent time in a refuge and it turned out to be the best thing I ever did.
And it wasn't as scary or depressing as I thought it would be - I made some friends there and everybody supported one another.
It doesn't matter if you're not physically being hurt, happyhello. A refuge will offer you a place for any kind of abuse/control.
 
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I’m sorry that your in a bad situation . Do you have any friends/family that you could stay with. I know it’s not easy but you and your child would be much happier on your own. I was in a violent controlling situation for 12 years and it was affecting my children. When he left I couldn’t have been happier. I just wish I’d been brave enough to leave years ago. But every year that went by I became more submissive and accepting of his behaviour.
If your in the uk there are refuges that you can go to. They may not be the nicest of places but at least you’d be safe.
Take care
Daf:hug:
How did you get out of it? I hope I'm not entering a 12 year period of this! I got away from my son's father. But, now my son and I are living with my parents. And I'm kind of finding a similar situation with coercive control and my father and my mother. I feel scared a lot.
 
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I'm sorry you're in such a horrid situation. :hug1:

I've spent time in a refuge and it turned out to be the best thing I ever did.
And it wasn't as scary or depressing as I thought it would be - I made some friends there and everybody supported one another.
It doesn't matter if you're not physically being hurt, happyhello. A refuge will offer you a place for any kind of abuse/control.
I wish we had those types of places in Central America. We are still very 3rd world down here!
 
daffy

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How did you get out of it? I hope I'm not entering a 12 year period of this! I got away from my son's father. But, now my son and I are living with my parents. And I'm kind of finding a similar situation with coercive control and my father and my mother. I feel scared a lot.
Cutting a long story short. He started an affair with someone half his age . And I didn’t argue just let him get on with it. And he left with her. Three months later he was begging to come back but I refused to let him. She was obviously stronger than me and wouldn’t put up with his behaviour. He finally agreed to a divorce if I didn’t mention the violence as the reason for the divorce.
 
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Cutting a long story short. He started an affair with someone half his age . And I didn’t argue just let him get on with it. And he left with her. Three months later he was begging to come back but I refused to let him. She was obviously stronger than me and wouldn’t put up with his behaviour. He finally agreed to a divorce if I didn’t mention the violence as the reason for the divorce.
Good that you did not let him come back into your life. It was a good thing. Women always have to stick together on these matters.
 
blacksmoke

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yeah so dont phone me again. ...in the unlikely event you do then i will go for it
 
blacksmoke

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cant really belive the pace of it. just as well i didnt go out tonight. got lots of boxes and cars tomorrow
 
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I'm sorry you're in such a horrid situation. :hug1:

I've spent time in a refuge and it turned out to be the best thing I ever did.
And it wasn't as scary or depressing as I thought it would be - I made some friends there and everybody supported one another.
It doesn't matter if you're not physically being hurt, happyhello. A refuge will offer you a place for any kind of abuse/control.
Thank you!
 
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Everyone hates me which can be proved.
Sadly most people's support locking people up which means they don't know when someone other than me will lock them in.
 
blacksmoke

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that i really needed to sort out this before i went away in fact a number of weeks ago its getting very ...
 
sadpunchingbag

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really hungry but too depressed to get up to make something feelsbad
 
fazza

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Thinking that my meeting with my cpn did not go well. Didn't say enough and was to tired. Frustrating when you have loads to tell but clam up when I came to speak.

Good job I have this place to vent off some steam.
 
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Thinking that my meeting with my cpn did not go well. Didn't say enough and was to tired. Frustrating when you have loads to tell but clam up when I came to speak.

Good job I have this place to vent off some steam.
I know I hate it when that happens.
 
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