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What’s a good alternative to self harm?

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Capicorncolumbine666

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Hi I’m very new to this forum. And like I really need to vent. I recently just relapsed back into self harm. Like I’m worried that I’m back in this mental state and like, I almost don’t remember why I did it. I felt had to bc the world is against me. It’s legitimately how I feel. People always tell that isn’t the case but it’s so obvious that’s how it is. Like how do I get out of this mindset and stop hurting myself. bc I’m getting scared. I felt like I had this mental breakdown, and now all of sudden I feel better after I cussed a shit ton of people out for no reason, injured myself pretty deep and had recorded it. Like fuck I don’t know what’s wrong with me.
 
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Snowshoes68

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The one I like most is to write an angry letter to someone who has hurt you. Probably don't send it. I heard that an emotional response lasts 90 seconds typically but for someone with mental health problems it is probably longer. Either way, writing a letter helps put space between the stimulus and your response which allows time for you to form a rational response rather than an emotional one.
 
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Necroticah

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Yeh I see you under a lot of distress, Sorry you feeling so shitty. I self harmed for many many years. it is not something you just stop doing over night.
It took a lot of getting to know my self what is it that makes me want to self harm and how do I feel before I do it.

My alternatives were running.
Once I could pinpoint the anxiety I normal get before I self harm. I use to go run Till I was so tired. and then kept walking myself over the urge. Other times It was ppl that made me self harm specially conflict. I ran away It is silly ran To a place I was safe from myself. And Id sit and sit and sit Taking really deep breaths to make the feeling pass but was not easy. And sometimes If i still cant get myself away from the situation that makes me want to self harm.

I Built a support system over the years and only spent time with ppl that knew me as the broken person I am, and knew what is my triggers and helped me get through them , I self harm free fr 5 years. But self harming was my biggest problem and went 5 years til one day 2 months ago wear I was pused to the edge and backed into a corner and could not get out, And it ended really badly,I am so dispointed and my armes is a mess even worse than before :( But reset the clock and I am 2 months clean.

Find what it is that makes you want to harm. like the core feeling you get when you want to self harm.. Do you feel alone ? Neglected like you don't matter. That is the core problem you might have to work with From your past. It created a fright or flight reaction to protect yourself. when you feel that you want to protect yourself from that feeling and engage in behavior.
Normally when you get that feeling your body will start showing signs Like fast heartbeat or tight chest that's your bodys way to warn you something is up. And that is when you try and remove yourself to a safe space.
heard holding ice till it hurts works. Go look up some grounding methods. With me if I go over a poit its over I do it angrily an mindlessly its like I black out. This is what works for me.
And rember no mater how bad you feel now This shall pass.

Also try to do something you enjoy more something that you have to think really hard or concentrate hard. Kinda like distraction methods also work well.
Good luck I know it can get tiring
Hope you ok.
 
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carocaro

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Not sure if this is what you're looking for, but I use an epilator on my legs (it's like a power tweezer) instead of shaving. Honestly, it hurts a decent amount but it's completely safe. If what you crave is the feeling of pain, it's a good way to satisfy that need without doing any harm to yourself. You can use it anywhere on your body if you don't want to use it on your legs. When I get tempted to self harm I usually use it and it helps me a lot.
 
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