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Was my husband's behaviour out of order (bad neighbours - please read)? I am feeling anxious.

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Moise1970

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Are they renting or do they own where they live?

Reason for asking is if they are renting then maybe they can get evicted? If they own the house they can't get kicked out as far as I know.
Our house is bought, next door is rented. We have no idea why their landlord (housing association) allowed such people to move here. Where we live is a somewhat quiet area and everyone knows everyone, since they have moved in it has just been absolute hell.

We hardly had any sleep last night, dance music on all night, banging doors and yelling at the top of their voices! We are sleep deprived.

My husband tried to knock on their front door before he left to go to work this morning. Guess what? The music was so loud that they probably didn’t hear it because no-one answered.

I have several recordings that were taken at different times last night and in about thirty minutes I’ll be going to the anti-social place. The problem needs to be solved, we cannot go on like this and I don’t see why we should be forced out of our lovely home where we have lived for years.
 
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Mouse calm down. You're ranting. Slow down. You're in a shit situation and stressed to the max.
 
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But there are ways.
 
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I had years of it. They even burgled me. It all stopped when I climbed onto my roof and threatened to throw myself. I was sectioned.
Could you elaborate on what you had to put up with and what was the outcome? Thanks.
 
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schizolanza

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First you have to try the right way.
 
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Could you elaborate on what you had to put up with and what was the outcome? Thanks.
Mouse that would take all day literally. But allow me to give you the benefit of my experience.
 
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schizolanza

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The first thing I would do is be nice and introduce yourselves.
 
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schizolanza

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I know that is going to be extremely hard because you are both so angry
 
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schizolanza

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I think you have every right to be angry.
 
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schizolanza

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But being angry won't help at all.
 
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schizolanza

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Be nice and genuinely take an interest just as you would with anyone else.
 
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schizolanza

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You could give a small housewarming gift like a plant or something.
 
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schizolanza

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Slowly but deliberately and calmly explain to them about everything . You mustn't get angry. But don't hold back tears.
 
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When they cause he'll at night pop round when they are asleep and Nick the door so they have to get up and talk to you.
 
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Maybe put a polite note through their door asking them to keep the noise down and explain that your husband works and so needs his sleep?
 
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