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great stuff !

I think one way I re-charge
is by not having a smart phone
so that I'm not on the computer when I'm out

probably not possible for you if you are working

and I need to think of more ways of doing it !
 
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Sometimes I think it would be a good idea to put my phone away and disconnect!

So I got a message from her, she liked my letter and thought it was very kind. She has said that everything is terrible still and she thinks that maybe things will start to settle soon.
 
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k great ! ok so you are on your phone alot
yes that can get mixed in with the co-dependency

maybe build it up , like, switch it off for 5 minutes
and then build it up to 10 minutes

I love it when I'm out and I'm off the internet
 
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Well I took a break from the internet, caught up on some reading and found an old mindfulness colouring book
 
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yay great stuff ! I hope you feel a bit re-charged

enjoyed my town today
preparations for bonfire night going on

watched some of the fireworks

struck up a conversation at the bus stop !
 
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Oh that's nice, I spent bonfire night at a local event with my two boys. I struggle to make conversation but I'm getting better at it!

I sent the girl a message this afternoon cheering her on for getting through another day of work but apart from that I've kept myself as much in the real world as possible today. We have a new starter at work too so I'm getting myself out of my comfort zone and getting to know her.

Might go for a long walk tomorrow to get out of my head a little bit
 
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k great ! this is really helping me actually !
 
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Well I came here for help and now I'm helping you. I like this place.
 
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amazing isn't it !

I think by passing it on it sticks with us
 
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Well I sure feel nice and comfortable being here, it's about time I started feeling more at ease with my own worries
 
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yes I feel like I'm clearing some space
in the cluttered attic of my mind !
 
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I've got a couple of colouring books that I'm going to dig out and waste an hour or two with
 
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' waste ' ha ha ! best hour or two to spend !

I spent a fair bit of time today
lying on the sofa with the tv on not really listening to it
writing down interesting thoughts

really seems to re-charge my batteries
 
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Thank you Zoe... I haven't been around much over the last few days as I've been keeping my head down. Not feeling too great over this situation and keep overthinking!
 
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