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Social anxiety can be so lonely. I would love to have someone to talk to if anyone is interested? I am an 18 year old female from the UK:)
 
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Hi there and welcome to the forum. I’m sure you’ll find plenty to chat about as more people come on the forum. Have a look thru the different areas and Theresa good chill out and debating section for general chat
 
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There are lots of people on here you can chat with. Interesting topics to voice an opinion on. And you can always create new threads to get people talking with you.
 
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I'm happy to chat; drop me a message! :)
 
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I'm happy to chat publicly on these forums, that way other people here can get to know you as well and chime in if they have anything to add to the conversation.

If you'd like to talk about social anxiety I have nearly 40 years of experience with that.

Ever since I was a small child I was never good with people, I guess most would just say "oh, he's shy" but it was much more than that. Not only was I never good at talking to people especially new people so making friends was difficult for me, I would get horrible physical feelings when talking to others, it would start in my legs then move up through my body and I believe this was how my anxiety would manifest, that and I would go red in the face at the drop of a hat when the attention was focussed on me.

Nowadays thanks to medication I don't get the physical effects any more, no more whole body feelings or redness but I still don't know how to make small talk very well. I gravitate to people who are the exact opposite to me, my good and possibly only friend is much better at this kind of thing than me and he has lots of friends, I tend to use him or more accurately enjoy the privilege of having him as a human social shield.

I had a different friend when I was around the age of 15 who was originally my brothers class mate at school, he was two years older than me the same age as my brother and we used to hang around a lot and he was my first 'wingman', enjoying once again the privilege of having him as a human social shield where I would just point him at someone I wanted to socialise with and he did all the small talk, this is how I met my first girlfriend.

But I'll leave it there for now, that's just a short example of my social anxiety and how it effected my life when I was younger and how I adapted to use other people to compensate for my awkwardness and general social ineptitude.

I'd love to hear from you about how your anxiety effects your life and how you deal with it.
 
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I'm happy to chat publicly on these forums, that way other people here can get to know you as well and chime in if they have anything to add to the conversation.

If you'd like to talk about social anxiety I have nearly 40 years of experience with that.

Ever since I was a small child I was never good with people, I guess most would just say "oh, he's shy" but it was much more than that. Not only was I never good at talking to people especially new people so making friends was difficult for me, I would get horrible physical feelings when talking to others, it would start in my legs then move up through my body and I believe this was how my anxiety would manifest, that and I would go red in the face at the drop of a hat when the attention was focussed on me.

Nowadays thanks to medication I don't get the physical effects any more, no more whole body feelings or redness but I still don't know how to make small talk very well. I gravitate to people who are the exact opposite to me, my good and possibly only friend is much better at this kind of thing than me and he has lots of friends, I tend to use him or more accurately enjoy the privilege of having him as a human social shield.

I had a different friend when I was around the age of 15 who was originally my brothers class mate at school, he was two years older than me the same age as my brother and we used to hang around a lot and he was my first 'wingman', enjoying once again the privilege of having him as a human social shield where I would just point him at someone I wanted to socialise with and he did all the small talk, this is how I met my first girlfriend.

But I'll leave it there for now, that's just a short example of my social anxiety and how it effected my life when I was younger and how I adapted to use other people to compensate for my awkwardness and general social ineptitude.

I'd love to hear from you about how your anxiety effects your life and how you deal with it.
Interesting, thanks for sharing. I have met people like that but they always scare me. I try to make friends with people who are more like me but it's hard. I admire you for successfully adapting.

People like that remind me of this quote:
“Oh, please don't go—we'll eat you up—we love you so!”
Maurice Sendak, Where the Wild Things Are
 
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