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I have decided I’m being too hard on myself trying to give up smoking cigarettes and joints. It’s not that I don’t want to, it’s just after such intensive self help and therapy I’m too exhausted. So rather than punish myself for failure I’m not going to try at the moment.
I’ve progressed so much this year in both mindset and health and reduced my self destructive behaviour enormously. BUT as it’s been so tiring I’m taking a month off (I’m just going to focus on my Interpersonal relationships). This will set me up for a relaxing holiday in the sun for a couple of weeks and when I get back I’m going to be intense in my Mindfulness, Meditation and Yoga practice and finish what I’ve started..to conquer my last addictions.
That’s the plan anyway. 😊
 
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Don’t beat yours of up about it Lunas it is really hard to do. It took me five attempts over a couple of years before I conquered the nicotine. . You have to be in the right mindset to stop and it’s got to be something your ready to commit to. You’ve been concentrating on getting your mind back in a healthy place and if having a cig is helping you, why not. When your feeling ready you’ll be able to do it because you really want to.
 
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Don’t beat yours of up about it Lunas it is really hard to do. It took me five attempts over a couple of years before I conquered the nicotine. . You have to be in the right mindset to stop and it’s got to be something your ready to commit to. You’ve been concentrating on getting your mind back in a healthy place and if having a cig is helping you, why not. When your feeling ready you’ll be able to do it because you really want to.
Thanks mate. I’m actually in a good place from making the decision, accepting reality for what it is. 😊
 
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I think this is a wise (mind) plan.
 
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I have decided I’m being too hard on myself trying to give up smoking cigarettes and joints. It’s not that I don’t want to, it’s just after such intensive self help and therapy I’m too exhausted. So rather than punish myself for failure I’m not going to try at the moment.
I’ve progressed so much this year in both mindset and health and reduced my self destructive behaviour enormously. BUT as it’s been so tiring I’m taking a month off (I’m just going to focus on my Interpersonal relationships). This will set me up for a relaxing holiday in the sun for a couple of weeks and when I get back I’m going to be intense in my Mindfulness, Meditation and Yoga practice and finish what I’ve started..to conquer my last addictions.
That’s the plan anyway. 😊
Sounds good. When I first presented to my doctor with depression I also asked for help to stop smoking. It retrospect he was right to tell me to smoke away while I dealt with the depression. You are doing so well, I am really impressed and glad to read about your amazing progress and now I am really glad that you are recognising the mountain you have climbed and are giving yourself permission to relax for a while and maybe, perhaps, even congratulate yourself? I am really glad that you are recognising you are human and that is ok.
 
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Sounds good. When I first presented to my doctor with depression I also asked for help to stop smoking. It retrospect he was right to tell me to smoke away while I dealt with the depression. You are doing so well, I am really impressed and glad to read about your amazing progress and now I am really glad that you are recognising the mountain you have climbed and are giving yourself permission to relax for a while and maybe, perhaps, even congratulate yourself? I am really glad that you are recognising you are human and that is ok.
Thanks so much. It’s funny you mention mountains as not only do I like hiking up them, I also think the climb mirrors life. Sometimes the climb is hard and you need someone to take some weight off you, sometimes you take the wrong path, but ultimately you know that if you just keep putting one foot in front of the other you will eventually get there. I feel like I’m two thirds of the way up, and now I’ve stopped for a breather I can see the view is already wonderful.
I can’t say I like myself yet as I wouldn’t be smoking but I am truly proud of my progress and my efforts to be a more loving and respectful person. 😊
 
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Thanks so much. It’s funny you mention mountains as not only do I like hiking up them, I also think the climb mirrors life. Sometimes the climb is hard and you need someone to take some weight off you, sometimes you take the wrong path, but ultimately you know that if you just keep putting one foot in front of the other you will eventually get there. I feel like I’m two thirds of the way up, and now I’ve stopped for a breather I can see the view is already wonderful.
I can’t say I like myself yet as I wouldn’t be smoking but I am truly proud of my progress and my efforts to be a more loving and respectful person. 😊
Forget to say, the main thing I’ve realised is I have limitations.
 
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We all do, you’re not alone. It’s how you work WITH them that I think is the key to mental health.
 
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