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In my journal I mentioned going to the cinema with a guy who later gave me flowers. Since then he turned up at my home unannounced (having asked a local where I lived)...I was out. And he turns up at my hotel when I am over-nighting there.
Well, I was lonely and don't like hurting peoples feelings so I have found it hard to say "Fuck off! I'm wearing nothing but a towel"...and he was there when I collapsed. I asked him to get a doctor which he didn't do. Later, when I was on my own again I called one myself....anyway....I have got a yukky virus but I am alright.
This guy ignores all non-verbal and verbal cues to leave (which is why I fainted in the end). Last time I saw him I was on my way to my appointment with my CPN....I said "Okay...goodbye...I am going this way".....but he just followed me down there too. He said "Let's meet at 2pm" and I said "okay".....because, quite frankly, I have no idea how to say "no" without hurting him.
Well, I talked to my CPN about this and realised that I was hurting MYSELF to avoid hurting someone else. What did I want? I did'nt want to spend time with a guy who doesn't listen to a word I say.
Anyhoo.....since he doesn't listen to me it was decided that I should send this letter:
"I'm sorry if this hurts your feelings but I don't want to see you anymore."
My CPN said I should'nt try and explain things because that gives him hope that he can change my mind.
So.... I thought that would be the end of it.
He waited for me outside Tesco and came up behind me and tapped me on the shoulder. Well.....my whole 'trying-to-be-nice' thing went out the window and I snapped "WHAT?!". He wanted an explanation.....but not only should I not have to give one....but how could I say "Because you are creeping me out"? So I kinda yelled at him "Everything you need to know is in that letter!"
And I stomped off.
When I spoke to my psychologist about it she said "Maybe he's a bit slow getting a message."
Anyhoo....then I got another letter from him. Apparently I am his soulmate and that he can't just forget me.....and when I fell in my room he realised how much I meant to him. And he's applying for jobs here on my island.
But as the next few days went by I was thinking he was going to put me out of his mind but today I got another letter from him.
He says "I'll be pushed to come over to (where I live) if you don't explain".
I think my CPN is right, that explaining is something I should'nt do...and I don't want to anyway....
Well, I was lonely and don't like hurting peoples feelings so I have found it hard to say "Fuck off! I'm wearing nothing but a towel"...and he was there when I collapsed. I asked him to get a doctor which he didn't do. Later, when I was on my own again I called one myself....anyway....I have got a yukky virus but I am alright.
This guy ignores all non-verbal and verbal cues to leave (which is why I fainted in the end). Last time I saw him I was on my way to my appointment with my CPN....I said "Okay...goodbye...I am going this way".....but he just followed me down there too. He said "Let's meet at 2pm" and I said "okay".....because, quite frankly, I have no idea how to say "no" without hurting him.
Well, I talked to my CPN about this and realised that I was hurting MYSELF to avoid hurting someone else. What did I want? I did'nt want to spend time with a guy who doesn't listen to a word I say.
Anyhoo.....since he doesn't listen to me it was decided that I should send this letter:
"I'm sorry if this hurts your feelings but I don't want to see you anymore."
My CPN said I should'nt try and explain things because that gives him hope that he can change my mind.
So.... I thought that would be the end of it.
He waited for me outside Tesco and came up behind me and tapped me on the shoulder. Well.....my whole 'trying-to-be-nice' thing went out the window and I snapped "WHAT?!". He wanted an explanation.....but not only should I not have to give one....but how could I say "Because you are creeping me out"? So I kinda yelled at him "Everything you need to know is in that letter!"
And I stomped off.
When I spoke to my psychologist about it she said "Maybe he's a bit slow getting a message."
Anyhoo....then I got another letter from him. Apparently I am his soulmate and that he can't just forget me.....and when I fell in my room he realised how much I meant to him. And he's applying for jobs here on my island.
But as the next few days went by I was thinking he was going to put me out of his mind but today I got another letter from him.
He says "I'll be pushed to come over to (where I live) if you don't explain".
I think my CPN is right, that explaining is something I should'nt do...and I don't want to anyway....