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Am I a narcissist


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DaveSanta999

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So first off my dad is definitely narcissistic and maybe a sociopath but I’m not sure about that one. But he is annoying to talk to, always brags about the things he has and everything he has is the best and he is the perfect human being. Also he has a criminal past and doesn’t seem to get stressed about doing things that might be risky, such as lying, cheating and so on. Also he does get aggressive and likes to fight people
Well I’m a 22 year old male and I’m wondering if I myself do suffer from NPD however I’m definitely not a sociopath or anything like that. Also I do suffer from bad anxiety.
I daydream a lot about being successful, rich, impressing people, etc. Impressing people is a big thing for me probably I love to make people think I’m cool, rich, successful, etc. However when I know someone is more successful than me or has achieved something I haven’t I don’t like being around them, and if I am then I tend to be quiet. However when I’m around people I know that I have achieved more than them, then I tend to be a lot more talkative. Also when I daydream I often listen to music, yeah I know cringe.

I am very self conscious I guess and I’m asking this question if I do have NPD because I kind of deep down want to have a condition like that. I’m fascinated with psychopaths and sociopaths because they’re different and they’re fearless. People such as Charles Manson, I love to watch videos of him but I am not a sociopath or psychopath that’s for sure. However reading about narcissism I think that fits me possibly. I hate when my friends are successful or achieve something but I thrive when they fail, yeah I know I’m a shit person probably.

Another thing is I am bad with girls, but I did have a girlfriend and I only asked her out because I knew she was into me. I tried to be all good to her, treat her well and impress her until we became official. When we became official she’d be very clingy, and I became very distant and uninterested in her and always came up with excuses not to meet her. It just felt pointless to me because it’s as if I achieved getting her and after that I became very unmotivated to pursue her. Obviously in the end the relationship ended and I felt great because I felt free, however, I heard she was depressed for 6 months after the relationship ended.
Also my ego is very unstable sometimes I feel ugly, sometimes I feel like the most good looking guy ever. One I’m feeling depressed and ugly I tend to be very low energy. But when I’m in good mood and feeling good looking I’m a lot higher in energy. However, I do love any sort of compliments thar definitely make my mood better.
The only thing I’m confused about is that I can’t think of any childhood trauma I had. Like yeah my parents would argue a lot and as a kid that was a very scary thing but that doesn’t make someone a narcissist. My dad never had time for me but my mum was a good parent even a bit strict I’d say.

So could I possibly be a narcissist or am I just a shit fucked up person lol
 
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sounds like your dad has brainwashed you into his delusion lol

when aliens came to earth in war of the words movie a homeless man sneezed on them and they all got sick and died. a worthless bum who has achieved nothing saved the whole planet. and what did all the narcissists do? they ran and hid haha
 
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Hi Dave,

Carl Jung believed that narcissism exist on a continuum, so we are all narcissistic to some degree. It just depends on how mild or extreme someone's narcissism is. As far as Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) goes, based on the information you've given, doesn't sound like you have it. One reason I say that is because when you meet someone more successful than yourself you realize it, and it sounds like you might actually feel intimidated by them. Someone with NPD has an inflated sense of superiority and wouldn't feel intimidated by them, at most they would view that person as an equal. Another reason is that your self image seems to fluctuate and someone with NPD would be confident is their superiority. It sounds like you're a very self aware person and I think that you exhibit fairly normal behavior for a 22 year old. Anyway thats just my opinion so take it with a grain of salt.
 
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sounds like your dad has brainwashed you into his delusion lol

when aliens came to earth in war of the words movie a homeless man sneezed on them and they all got sick and died. a worthless bum who has achieved nothing saved the whole planet. and what did all the narcissists do? they ran and hid haha
well he couldn’t have brainwashed me as I never had a close relationship with him or anything so I doubt that
 
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well he couldn’t have brainwashed me as I never had a close relationship with him or anything so I doubt that
brain evolved in 3 stages:

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the emotions are in the middle mammal brain. if the emotions are reduced then the lower reptile brain runs too strongly and doesnt get tempered by the emotions. so then poeple are more driven by their reptile brain to seek power over others which increases their serotonin

with the emotions running properly we will just seek power by trying to gain more friends and cooperate more with larger groups etc... so the drive for power gets tempered and intergrated by the social emotional level.
 
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brain evolved in 3 stages:

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the emotions are in the middle, mid brain mammal. if the emotions are reduced then the lower reptile brain runs too strongly and doesnt get tempered by the emotions. so then poeple are more driven by their reptile brain to seek power over others.

with the emotions running properly they will just seek power by trying to gain more friends and cooperate more with larger groups etc... so the drive for power gets tempered and intergrated by the social emotional level.
okay but I asked if I could possibly be narcissistic
 
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okay but I asked if I could possibly be narcissistic
everyone is. we are driven to increase power by our reptile brain which controls the serotonin.

question is if its being integrated by your emotions enough. if so then you would not be willing to sacrifice social emotional rewards for superiority over others. if the emotions are diminished then the person will choose the superiority over others for the serotonin. instead of increasing the social bonding and cooperation to raise the power/serotonin.
 

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