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Unloved and unlovable

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Cat_nap

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I am getting incredibly depressed over the quality of my relationships. I feel like no one really cares or has my back. My friends are not the kinds of people who would visit me when I am unwell and have no money to go out because they are too busy having fun and my partner is being a bit of a downer. They sleep a lot, don't do anything interesting and don't make me feel loved and special.

All of this makes me feel unloved and unlovable and it makes me wonder what is the point of living if no one values me and I am so miserable about my human connections. I feel hopeless.

I keep chanting my mantra "I am loved and lovable" but I am finding it hard to believe when people are being inconsiderate towards me and doing things like showing up to a place 2 hours after what we agreed on, making me wait and getting upset when I say that I am not going to wait.

What can I do to feel better? I am really down, do not trust anyone and feel like I don't have a real friend in this world.
 
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ziedite

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Hi Cat... relationships with friends nowadays is really tough. You don't say what age bracket you are in, so its hard to say whether face to face meetings are no longer as important as social media interaction, which it seems to be with people in their 20's. People that are 2 hours late without calling to let you know and without apologising are just downright rude in my humble opinion. And I would question whether they really are friends or just casual acquaintances that you bump into from time to time.

What you need is to try an either improve the quality of your existing friendships or expand your world to try and find new ones with people that are decent and will treat you the way you should be treated. I know, its easy for me to say that as I am not struggling with your situation, but true. Do you have social interest or social circle where you might be able to meet new individuals?

Your mantra is good, and keep repeating it to yourself and I find it helps during meditation if you do that sort of thing. Let us know here how we can help and take care.
 
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Cat_nap

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I need to find new friends, it seems. I really only had that one friend who made me wait for two hours for her and I have known her for 10 years so it is really sad to me that she no longer appreciates me like she used to. I feel really unloved and not in a good state of mind to be searching for new friends. I think nobody will ever really care about me and nobody will want to be a true friend to me. I want to give up. Maybe I should just accept that I will always feel alone and never have friends who really value and respect me.
 
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WhatsFriendship?

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I am getting incredibly depressed over the quality of my relationships. I feel like no one really cares or has my back. My friends are not the kinds of people who would visit me when I am unwell and have no money to go out because they are too busy having fun and my partner is being a bit of a downer. They sleep a lot, don't do anything interesting and don't make me feel loved and special.

All of this makes me feel unloved and unlovable and it makes me wonder what is the point of living if no one values me and I am so miserable about my human connections. I feel hopeless.

I keep chanting my mantra "I am loved and lovable" but I am finding it hard to believe when people are being inconsiderate towards me and doing things like showing up to a place 2 hours after what we agreed on, making me wait and getting upset when I say that I am not going to wait.

What can I do to feel better? I am really down, do not trust anyone and feel like I don't have a real friend in this world.



Cat_nap
Everything you said is so true. It fits me alot. If i want a mate i would have to beg someone to be with me and or to live with me. I don't like myself or my body. I don't even feel like a real man then i have mental issues. Nobody is going to want me, need me or love me. I feel all alone ever since kindergarden. Nobody ever liked me. I was viciously bullied. I learned nothing in school. I was in fear every day of my life. I can't keep a job. I have heard that everyone has a reason to be on this earth and my reason is to be bullyed physically,emotionally,mentally,verbally. I have PTSD because of being bullied. My parents hated me. I have social anxiety,social phobia and agoraphobia. With all 3 of these mental disorders i can't live my life the way i want and i can't have fun. I stay in my house daily just waiting for that day that i pass away and die. My life is such a waste. I am trully sorry that i can't give you any advice on what you should do. I try to deal with my own sicknesses.
 
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