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University Life Sucks

Solitude1

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I've recently started studying MA program.
But university life totally sucks. I just wanna stay home and sleep all day.
I want to stay away from every social activity and even every non social activity in front of others.
I just want my life to be over.
 
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I just finished my BSc summa cum laude and totally agree with you.
 
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I had a tough time as a student but now I'm in the 'real world' I wish I could go back! Haha. Never happy.

What is it that you don't like? Did you just start your course?
 
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Thanks for replying.
Yeah I just started it.
There are many things I don't like, from my anxiety to the goallessness I feel, and many more reasons to be honest. I wish I could let it all out.
 
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Thanks for replying.
Yeah I just started it.
There are many things I don't like, from my anxiety to the goallessness I feel, and many more reasons to be honest. I wish I could let it all out.
Just remember why you're doing your course and that everyone is in the same boat at the start so it's a good time to try and get involved.

Do you have specific worries?
 
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Just remember why you're doing your course and that everyone is in the same boat at the start so it's a good time to try and get involved.

Do you have specific worries?
Yeah I do.
One big problem is my social anxiety. I have to live in a dorm with 4 more people in the same room and that gives me an overwhelming feeling.
Also my anxiety and OCD that makes me do/undergo things in front of them and my classmates, and it all embarrasses me like hell.
One other reason is that for my anxiety I have a very poor performance in classes to the detriment of my overall performance.
Also I feel I don't have enough knowledge to offer in this course and university and that makes me feel like total garbage.
I just don't want it anymore.
 
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Yeah I do.
One big problem is my social anxiety. I have to live in a dorm with 4 more people in the same room and that gives me an overwhelming feeling.
Also my anxiety and OCD that makes me do/undergo things in front of them and my classmates, and it all embarrasses me like hell.
One other reason is that for my anxiety I have a very poor performance in classes to the detriment of my overall performance.
Also I feel I don't have enough knowledge to offer in this course and university and that makes me feel like total garbage.
I just don't want it anymore.
Do you receive treatment for your anxiety at the moment?

It sounds like a tough situation but living with other people is a really good way to make lasting friends so maybe it's a blessing in disguise. Do they know you have anxiety? They might be nicer to you if you explain it to them?

It sounds like you might have a touch of imposter syndrome, thinking you're not good enough when you definitely are.

How long since you started your course? Is it a one year masters or a four year undergraduate masters?
 
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Do you receive treatment for your anxiety at the moment?

It sounds like a tough situation but living with other people is a really good way to make lasting friends so maybe it's a blessing in disguise. Do they know you have anxiety? They might be nicer to you if you explain it to them?

It sounds like you might have a touch of imposter syndrome, thinking you're not good enough when you definitely are.

How long since you started your course? Is it a one year masters or a four year undergraduate masters?
Do you receive treatment for your anxiety at the moment?

It sounds like a tough situation but living with other people is a really good way to make lasting friends so maybe it's a blessing in disguise. Do they know you have anxiety? They might be nicer to you if you explain it to them?

It sounds like you might have a touch of imposter syndrome, thinking you're not good enough when you definitely are.

How long since you started your course? Is it a one year masters or a four year undergraduate masters?
They don't, and here most of the people mock someone with such difficulties.
I had taken meds for my depression and anxiety, to no avail.
It is a two year program. It started just two weeks ago.
 
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They don't, and here most of the people mock someone with such difficulties.
I had taken meds for my depression and anxiety, to no avail.
It is a two year program. It started just two weeks ago.
It's such a shame your meds aren't working, could you ask to try something different?

It's a really tough call. Uni is great for building resilience and general experience and learning so much generally not just specifically about the relevant course, but it can definitely be tough.

What happens to your course fees if you give up? And what happens to your career plans if you drop out of the course? Do you think you could do the course if something else changed, like the dorm situation? Have you got any friends you can speak to? Are you enjoying the work load?

I don't really know what to suggest because only you can judge if your health is suffering too much but there's a lot to be gained from completing things even if that means toughing it out for a bit. You've got through the hardest part already, the first week, so things should get better as you stick it out.

I wish you all the best with it!
 
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It's such a shame your meds aren't working, could you ask to try something different?

It's a really tough call. Uni is great for building resilience and general experience and learning so much generally not just specifically about the relevant course, but it can definitely be tough.

What happens to your course fees if you give up? And what happens to your career plans if you drop out of the course? Do you think you could do the course if something else changed, like the dorm situation? Have you got any friends you can speak to? Are you enjoying the work load?

I don't really know what to suggest because only you can judge if your health is suffering too much but there's a lot to be gained from completing things even if that means toughing it out for a bit. You've got through the hardest part already, the first week, so things should get better as you stick it out.

I wish you all the best with it!
I've been admitted to a tuition free course.
This uni is the best uni in our country overall. With a degree from here I can both apply to a good overseas university and or start a decent career here. Also my field of study is a good one with so much promise both here and overseas.
The problem is I don't think I can keep up with the pace and style.
 
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I've been admitted to a tuition free course.
This uni is the best uni in our country overall. With a degree from here I can both apply to a good overseas university and or start a decent career here. Also my field of study is a good one with so much promise both here and overseas.
The problem is I don't think I can keep up with the pace and style.
So congratulations to you! That's so good. We have to pay for masters courses in the UK.

I don't think they'd have let you on the course unless you were academically capable of doing the work - if you really can't keep up with the pace of work I am sure that you will be able to take some time out later on in the course so it's almost not worth worrying about.

Do you think if your anxiety was managed you'd be able to keep up with the pace and style of the course?
 
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So congratulations to you! That's so good. We have to pay for masters courses in the UK.

I don't think they'd have let you on the course unless you were academically capable of doing the work - if you really can't keep up with the pace of work I am sure that you will be able to take some time out later on in the course so it's almost not worth worrying about.

Do you think if your anxiety was managed you'd be able to keep up with the pace and style of the course?
Thank you very much.
I think I can, to a significantly great extent.
 
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Thank you very much.
I think I can, to a significantly great extent.
So that's great! So you know you can do it.

What do you do for anxiety at the moment?
 
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So that's great! So you know you can do it.

What do you do for anxiety at the moment?
Suffer from it. 😂
I changed meds a number of times but still nothing happened.
 
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