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Understanding emotional states

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I've been given more homework from my nurse who is working with me on my BPD.

I've been given a sheet called HOW CAN WE UNDERSTAND EMOTIONAL STATES?

So at the top is:

HYPERAROUSAL = Overwhelmed, panicky, racing thoughts, feel unsafe, anger, impulsive.

In the middle is:

"WINDOW" = Feel calm can think clearly, relate to each other, can remember things.

And at the bottom:

HYPOAROUSAL = Numb, can't think, empty, "DEAD", disconnected.

It's kind of like my high and lows. I've found it helpful to identify exactly what i go through when i am in hyperarousal and hypoarousal. So i just thought i'd share this with you all. (y)
Really interesting stuff, P; I relate to this!!!
 
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I'm glad you've got something from this too cfb :)
 
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This categorising is very much what I do, though, I have identified 9 categories (or states of mind)

These look very similar to some of mine, plus or minus one thing.

The worst is when the former and latter collide. Thankfully rare for me, perhaps only a few times per year. Generally [I think based on my writing], these are triggered when too many things ALL happen at once, and brain goes into overload with too many things that I can't deal with RIGHT THEN!
 
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Pixie, that was so uplifting to read what you and your nurse have been working on and really useful to me. I can relate to it exactly and something I will be monitoring and discussing with my CPN on Tuesday. Thank you. Can you keep posting helpful work you do with your nurse so we can all have a go at doing it ourselves? x
 
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I tried explaining all this to my OH. Even sent him a picture of the screen. He replied with a blank face bless him. He said that he can never tell which state I'm in because they all seem the same to him. And yet I am now kind of able to tell whats going on. I havent had a 'Window' moment for a long time. Just been bouncing from hyper to hypo. Its exausting. But thanks for posting it up. Maybe I will get there with it in the end. :)
 
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This categorising is very much what I do, though, I have identified 9 categories (or states of mind)

These look very similar to some of mine, plus or minus one thing.

The worst is when the former and latter collide. Thankfully rare for me, perhaps only a few times per year. Generally [I think based on my writing], these are triggered when too many things ALL happen at once, and brain goes into overload with too many things that I can't deal with RIGHT THEN!
Yeah thats when i'm at my worst when these states clash.
 
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Or when they all seem to be happening at the same time......ugh!
 
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Hiya claire,

I'm really glad its helped you too. I've posted the next step = A trigger diary. I'll let you all know how this goes :)
 
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Hiya madsheep,

At least things make a bit more sense to you now. I think if we can understand what is going on we can learn how to cope with it. :)
 
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I'm tired of these highs and lows. Come crashing down after high back in bed again. My nurse said my highs are anxiety driven. Fed up. I have to keep recording them. But so many triggers :(
 
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Sooo, be kind to yourself lovely, you just had a major disappointment after having been so happy, so hardly surprising you are feeling a few things? In a way it was inevitable this would affect you - how could it not. Do what you need to for getting though it with out getting worse, and know that it will pass.....Come snuggle on my new sofa!!!

I have lots of salad and some lovely chicken for lunch, and may bake a cake later.....
 
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I'm getting suicidal thoughts. I want to take all my pills. I want off this rollercoaster. I'm tired of fighting this illness. I just want out.
 
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The tiredness is part of the past Pixie, when you were too little to do anything about your situation and just wanted out....I know it so well, that feeling of just about had enough of it all....if there were an off button, I would press it, is what I say. In that moment, that is very real, like it is for you now. Right now this is what you think and feel, but if someone were to offer you a lovely flat, safe and with good views, you would be interested yes? I know the disappointment is hard to cope with. You were on top of the world......now you have catapulted right back down. It is so unfair.
Just take it easy with yourself, recognise these feelings for what they are ( a bit of a natural reaction in a way) even if they are unpleasant....it will change, and so do your moods.
:hug: :hug:
 
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Thanks qf.
Thanks maxi. Sorry i just can't think straight right now. I was extremely tired of all this on Thursday then i went high again. I'm gonna go to sleep and see how i am when i wake up. Think i'm gonna have to speak to my nurse again.
 
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