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I've been battling panic attacks due to fear of death since my early 20's. When my Christian wife and I first started dating about 2 years ago I was an atheist. I was also struggling with drug addiction. She told me that God talked to her sometimes and I thought she was crazy, I didn't like for her to even talk about that because it made me uncomfortable. She had been praying that God would bless us because I was an unbeliever and one night she gets excited and says he said "It is done",of course I thought she was nuts. Over the next few weeks God started revealing himself to me. At first I didn't know what was going on but I knew it couldn't be explained, supernatural things was happening. Then one night during a thunderstorm evil shows up in our room. I could feel it moving around the room, i was so scared I couldn't even move. There was messages coming on the tablet screen, one said "Aren't you even gonna try", one said "You're going to hell", I was holding my stomach in the fetal position and an image comes on the screen of a person holding their stomach. About daylight it appeared to be gone so I get up and grab my phone. Electricity arcs from it to my fingertip, up my arm, into my head. I then hear demonic sounding talking and then at that moment the tablet gets a notification, I look at it and it reads "YOU SEE WHATEVER YOU CHOOSE TO SEE". I tried to pretend like I it didn't happen because It scared me so bad. Then I started having the worst nightmares you could imagine. After the third one I said I couldn't deny it anymore and I got saved and then baptized a few weeks later. Heaven and Hell is very real, take it from the biggest atheist there was. All you have to do is give your life to Jesus and you have nothing to worry about when you die, in fact you will live FOREVER in heaven with God! I would be happy to talk to anyone further, God bless!
 
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Wow Jonro a really fascinating story I’m afraid of death and the unknown, my mam and partner has seen things and aren’t really scared of dying because of that, it helps me abit as I know they wouldn’t lie to me about things like that but it’s still hard
 
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I wish I could help in someway, but it takes faith. You just have to believe that he is with you, God is omnipresent. He isnt in the sky looking down at us, he exists outside of time, space, and matter. He is everywhere and there is nothing that happens in this world that he doesn't know about. Just know that God loves you, you are precious to him. If you turn to Jesus Christ and surrender to him, you will go to heaven, and you will live forever. God is eternal, he has always existed and he always will, and he has given those who believe to his son. Jesus bought us with his blood. Believers in him now belong to him. We are his children and we will have eternal life.
My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me. I give them eternal life, and they shall never perish; no one will snatch them out of my hand. My Father, who has given them to me, is greater than all ; no one can snatch them out of my Father’s hand. I and the Father are one.”
John 10:27*-‬30 NIV
 
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I worry about this daily often worry about dying of an awful death or thinking about what happens when you are not around if you are reincarnated or just nothing. I try not to think about it however maybe with covid and stuff we hear about death every day it’s hard to get it out my mind? I worry if I fly on a plane I will die too? Any tips?
 
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I noticed this often happens to people who experienced a near-death or have lost a loved one. We will all be but gone eventually, but then death will come to us and happen in just a minute or two, but life happened, is happening, and will still happen. Maybe just enjoy the time we still have and not worry 'bout what's inevitable. Two minutes is short compared to the time we already had. I hope I make sense?
 
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Can anybody help? Lately I have noticed the fear increasing perhaps with covid deaths always on the news? I am in my 30’s but have a constant fear of dying. I believe it’s a problem if it affects your life daily which it does for example I can get an anxiety type attack where I feel weak and worry I am dying or I just feel on the edge or not relaxed? When I am at work this reduces my anxiety. I was hoping to do more CBT however the therapist ignored my emails and it says she is only doing video calls anyway which isn’t quite as useful. Each day I worry will it be my last day? Or I get awful thoughts of dying of something awful in my head. Has anybody got any tips I am sort of trying to figure out why I feel this way maybe the pandemic often I have a foreign holiday to look forward to but often with limited things to do I have more time to worry? Often I worry am I really living through all this but again perhaps it’s covid making it worse?
 
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I just do not think about it. I've 24/7 anxiety even without thinking about it. When i die, i die.
 
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Thanatophobia. I believe this is why i developed panic attacks/anxiety attacks and all the fun other subcatagories of mental health disorders that come with it. For me its truly not the pain that conea with it that im afraid of. I suppose you could call me a nihilist. The crippling existential crisis becomes onset when the terrifying truth of the void comes into my mind. I grew up in a religious family. Not heavy. But enough that we went to church quite a bit when i was younger. I was saved and baptized before i even knew what it meant. As I got older i began searching for proof. Im not here to debate religion but i simply couldnt allow myself to believe in the christian faith anymore. Too many inconsistancies. And i then began to notice a similar trend in population control and promises of one afterlife or another in almost all other religions. Im a person who has come to follow evidence. And I see no evidence of anything supernatural to warrent a comfort from my fear of the void. Although I would like to mention that when i was a child I did experience something that I couldnt explain. And still cant to this day. Old liqour bottles from a previous owner in the house we had moved into began flying off a shelf in the garage. One at a time. Me and my sister were playing with newly born kittens out there and my mom was cooking dinner and keeping an eye on us through the screen door. We all saw what happened. But i still cant take that one incident and say with certainty that there is yes for sure another life for us. And if that was the case what about animals? Bugs even? Microorganisms that are technically alive? Do they have souls too? No ultimately i have to accept the void. I have been making progress though. Trying to find the beauty in life and death. Nature. Its magnificent resilliance. The way of things. It brings me some level of comfort. But truthfully at this point id be happy to know purgatory existed. If only there was something. Amd i could know. I feel I would be alleviated almost entirely of this nightmare of attacks ive been having for more than 8 years now.
 
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I have this worry every day how can I relax myself?
 
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I've always been a worrier even as a kid, I'm now almost 21 and the uncontrollable fear of something happening to me or anyone close is getting unbearable. I havnt booked a doctors appointment because I will feel idiotic explaining it and sometimes I feel fine, usually in the daytime. I find it hard to sleep alot and will be fine then for no reason have the uncontrollable feeling something terrible is going to happen and I have no control. It's like a rising fear which I need to escape but their is no way out of. When driving home at night I can 'see' horrible accidents happening and Im convinced there is something wrong with me health wise..I know I'm being stupid but I cant stop it in my head..does anyone feel or has felt the same?or have any tips for keeping horrible thoughts at bay?thanks
Why do you feel something is going to happen to you in the first place? Did you do something to upset somebody?
 
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Thanatophobia. I believe this is why i developed panic attacks/anxiety attacks and all the fun other subcatagories of mental health disorders that come with it. For me its truly not the pain that conea with it that im afraid of. I suppose you could call me a nihilist. The crippling existential crisis becomes onset when the terrifying truth of the void comes into my mind. I grew up in a religious family. Not heavy. But enough that we went to church quite a bit when i was younger. I was saved and baptized before i even knew what it meant. As I got older i began searching for proof. Im not here to debate religion but i simply couldnt allow myself to believe in the christian faith anymore. Too many inconsistancies. And i then began to notice a similar trend in population control and promises of one afterlife or another in almost all other religions. Im a person who has come to follow evidence. And I see no evidence of anything supernatural to warrent a comfort from my fear of the void. Although I would like to mention that when i was a child I did experience something that I couldnt explain. And still cant to this day. Old liqour bottles from a previous owner in the house we had moved into began flying off a shelf in the garage. One at a time. Me and my sister were playing with newly born kittens out there and my mom was cooking dinner and keeping an eye on us through the screen door. We all saw what happened. But i still cant take that one incident and say with certainty that there is yes for sure another life for us. And if that was the case what about animals? Bugs even? Microorganisms that are technically alive? Do they have souls too? No ultimately i have to accept the void. I have been making progress though. Trying to find the beauty in life and death. Nature. Its magnificent resilliance. The way of things. It brings me some level of comfort. But truthfully at this point id be happy to know purgatory existed. If only there was something. Amd i could know. I feel I would be alleviated almost entirely of this nightmare of attacks ive been having for more than 8 years now.
Same with me man.
I've been having panic attack for over a week now and those happen only when I'm about to sleep.The fear of dying in my sleep terrifies me.I have ocd,GAD and I think I also might have thanatophobia and health anxiety.My fear is that I might die of a sudden heart attack or stroke during my sleep and since everybody else in my family will be sleeping they wont be able to even try to get me to the hospital.After that I get into a almost depressed state like I dont wanna die I have plans for my life etc etc. I know it is silly but hey,find me a mind that produces only normal thoughts and I would give you a million bucks.Everyone has these wicked thoughts but us anxious people tend to take it too seriously,others just wash them off.
Anyway hope you become better
 
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Same with me man.
I've been having panic attack for over a week now and those happen only when I'm about to sleep.The fear of dying in my sleep terrifies me.I have ocd,GAD and I think I also might have thanatophobia and health anxiety.My fear is that I might die of a sudden heart attack or stroke during my sleep and since everybody else in my family will be sleeping they wont be able to even try to get me to the hospital.After that I get into a almost depressed state like I dont wanna die I have plans for my life etc etc. I know it is silly but hey,find me a mind that produces only normal thoughts and I would give you a million bucks.Everyone has these wicked thoughts but us anxious people tend to take it too seriously,others just wash them off.
Anyway hope you become better
What do you do when your thoughts rule ur daily activities?
 
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I also have this. And it's really hard to move forward. Every time I try to pull myself together and motivate myself to work on my dreams, I end up thinking of what's the point? Then I am anxious to make things happen asap or I will get upset. I feel like I'm running out of time that's why I want things to be the way I want them. The worst thing about this is the way I affect the people around me. I get mad at them if they act slow. I feel like they're wasting time.

When I'm in the shower, I can't have the water/shower on my face for more than a second. I gasp for air as I feel like I will drown. This also happens when I'm swimming. I don't submerge my head. I'm really scared when I can't breathe.
 
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My dream is to die in my sleep. I don't think it hurts then. I am more afraid for my relatives. They say that being busy and avoiding such thoughts is a solution. I think time heals. Then when you just come to terms with the fact that this will happen and focus on today.
 
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My dream is to die in my sleep. I don't think it hurts then. I am more afraid for my relatives. They say that being busy and avoiding such thoughts is a solution. I think time heals. Then when you just come to terms with the fact that this will happen and focus on today.
Me too believe that dying in sleep would be easy. My mom was ill and was told by doctor's that she had just few months to live . So you know living in fear that you would die in a month or so is terrible. Its better to die quick without knowing that you are gonna die.
 

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